The Simple Yet Complicated Attraction in Women

Attraction in women is both simple and complicated. It is simple in the sense that it is automatic. When a woman finds that she is attracted to a guy, it’s locked down and irreversible. When you catch a woman’s eye and she sees something she pleases, it’s safe to say that she’s hooked. This is because women look for the metaphorical “spark.” This spark is the ever so evasive concept that makes her swoon, that makes her heart do somersaults over the butterflies in her stomach. Attraction for women is instantaneous and almost like spontaneous combustion.

The complicated part, however, is creating that spark when she sees you. We can only hope that attracting women is as simple as rubbing two stones together to make that spark. But sadly, it’s a lot harder than that. But thankfully, after much research and personal experience, we have figured out a few tips to help the lost bachelor along.

The first rule in attraction for women is never to try too hard. Women are automatically turned off at the sight of a guy who is trying too hard. Not only will you look like a joke, she would also forever associate you as that guy about whom nothing is impressive. The trick is acting naturally. Not only will you be more convincing, but you’ll also be more comfortable. Most men try to impress the woman with money, or with resumes or with power, but the unwritten rule is that, if you really have it, you don’t have to spell it out. It’s always much more impressive when you find out something truly impressive about a person out of nowhere. When you count your good points off your fingertips, it would only make you seem arrogant.

The second thing you need to remember is, be cool. Not in the sense of trying to look cool as that would be in direct contradiction to our first rule. Being cool here means don’t be too giddy. Don’t try to lock things down right after introducing yourself. At the end of the conversation, never ask “when will I see you again, never attempt to get a commitment when it’s not established that you’re entitled to one. Never sound as if you think the girl likes you enough to see you again. Just be cool about it.

Follow these two simple steps and your sure to get a third step closer.