Calm Down, Miss Independent

You don’t have a boyfriend. Even if you did have a boyfriend you know you won’t be able to keep him for long. You don’t understand why. You’re an independent woman. You take care of yourself; you don’t take let anyone step on your dignity. And yet for some reason, men seem to be avoiding the plague.

It’s not you, it’s them. No really, it is. They’re intimidated by you. And who wouldn’t be? You’re smart, beautiful and you can take care of yourself. You don’t need anyone and you certainly don’t need a man in your life to complete you, so where does that leave him in your life? He’s afraid that he’ll never be good enough for you so he decides to go for another girl instead.

They can’t help it though. They’re wired that way. Men see themselves as providers. They think that they are supposed to be the strong ones in a relationship. When you exude an aura of omnipotence you’ll scare the living daylights out of an average male. You may think that they’re insecure and you’re probably right but if you want to find a stable, loving boyfriend you’re going to have to lower your roar, lioness.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll purposely demean your achievements or make yourself less independent. It most certainly does not mean making yourself sound ditzy or dumb. You’re more than that! This just means that despite your achievements and despite your amazing-ness, you are still approachable. Don’t scare off a guy by making him feel that if he screws up he’s going to be dead meat. Let him feel like he is an important part of your life. Let him feel important by allowing him to provide for you and protect you. Let him be the man in your relationship. Give him equal importance. Show him that you care for him and that you’ll let him care for you.

When a guy approaches you for the first time don’t pounce on him lioness. Give him a chance. Converse with him but don’t try too hard. Just smile and be approaching.

Catching Your Dream Girl Part V – How to Build and Maintain A Strong Relationship

Finally, you have moved on from the “dating” stage to the “relationship” stage. And right now, you are loving the transition. Come to think of it, why will you not be happy? You love her and she loves you. Nothing can be more perfect and blissful than that.

But hey, not to burst your bubble or anything, I just want to remind you happiness is not all there is in relationships. There will be some instances where you and your “Dream Girl” will be engaged in a fight and faced with several challenges that can potentially destroy what you have. As such, it will be important for you and her as well to be prepared in facing these challenges by making your relationship stronger.

Question is, what exactly can you do to build a strong relationship with your girl?

Here are the answers to your question.

1. Strive hard to establish and maintain trust in between you two. You can do this by remaining faithful and refraining from lying to each other. Now that alone sounds pretty tough right? The funny thing is while trust remains to be one of the things that are tough to build, it also happens to be the easiest to shatter. So before committing in a relationship, make sure you can restrain yourself from the temptation of cheating and lying to your partner.
2. Respect each other’s space. Just because you are a couple that does not mean that you have to be literally together all the time right? Sometimes, it is best for you to spend a little away time from each other just so you both can grow and mature individually.
3. Fight if you must fight. You need to do this to release all the negative emotions inside you. But when you fight, make sure that you compromise with each other and that you patch things up before you sleep. This is important because you should not let your arguments create a gap in between you two.
4. Finally, communicate with each other. This is something that you will need to do because it will help you understand each other’s feelings without the guesswork.

Those are some of the answers that you may be looking for. At this point, everything may seem scary but if those things will eventually give you a happier and a more successful relationship, maybe they are definitely worth it.