What Women Really Mean When They Say Something

June 8, 2010 by admin  
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It is said that one of the greatest mysteries in the world is a woman’s psyche.  A lot of men find it difficult to understand how a woman thinks and acts.  And because of this, most men have a hard time maintaining relationships with women.  It is very important to know women before you carry one a relationship with one.  Here are a few things women say that have double meanings:

You should always remember that women like to be surprised.  They prefer it if you figure out what they want on your own, but If they feel like a man is too dense to do this, they won’t hesitate to give out hints.  For example, your girlfriend says, “I really like these shoes, but I don’t have the money to buy them.” Being aware of her feelings, you offer to buy her the pair.  If she disagrees and says, “No, it’s just too expensive.  I can manage without it,” don’t take it literally.  This is a hint she is sending out that she wants you to get them for her, but she wants to receive them in a more dramatic way.  What you would do here is buy the pair on your own and surprise her with them.  You’ll be surprised how happy this will make her.

Another line you should never take literally is “I’m fine.”  Women love to elaborate on their experiences.  If they limit their replies to one line, that means there is something wrong.  When this happens, prod a bit more but not so much that you annoy her.  Do your best to find out more about her situation without intruding on her privacy.  This will show her that you care and trust her at the same time.

Remember that women think very differently from men.  It is usually hard to decipher the reaction of females.  Most of the time, when women say one thing, they actually mean something else.  Make sure to familiarize yourself with the female psyche before getting into a serious relationship.  You can minimize misunderstandings and be a better this way.

How to Woo a Girl into Becoming Your Girlfriend

June 6, 2010 by admin  
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  1. Be a good conversationalist. Charm is everything. You should be able to go with the flow of a conversation. Learn what to say and how to say it. Never argue about sensitive issues and be sure to talk about common interests. The best way to be a good conversationalist—look her in the eye, shut up and listen
  2. Be her friend. Do not pretend to be her friend just to get into her pants. Genuinely get to know the person you are attracted to. This will be a true test on whether or no t you two are compatible.
  3. Know how to read and use body language. Around sixty percent of a conversation is based on body language. A nice tip is to imitate how your muse is currently posed. It creates an illusion that the two of you are alike and increases the attraction.
  4. Compliment her indirectly. This is probably more effective then the direct approach. How would you compliment someone indirectly? Comment on a trait or quality that you admire about the other person or thing then casually relate it to her. This will get her thinking on what you mean by your offhanded remarks.
  5. Give high regard for her opinion. Ask her what she thinks about things. But never agree to disagree. There is a fine line between keeping the peace and being spineless. Do not sound arrogant while stating your opinion and do not try to make her agree with yours. Respect is the key. Don’t just apply this to your girl but to others as well.
  6. Feign disinterest. This is the tricky bit. You have to show little hints of being attracted to her and not being attracted to her at the same time. This is very tricky and too much of one or the other can give you away. It’s best to keep yourself ambiguous and not give a straight answer if ever asked.
  7. Show her that you are serious about her when taking your relationship to the next level. Show her that she is more special then any other girl you’ve been with before. Your seriousness at this stage will determine whether or not you will push through with your relationship.

How to Recover From a Breakup

June 4, 2010 by admin  
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Break-ups are never easy, especially if you’ve invested a whole lot of feelings on the guy. When you’re in this kind of situation you have to be easy on yourself. Try not to be too sad for long though. You have a life! Here are some ideas on how to get over a guy and how to mend your broken heart.

  1. Broken hearts are usually a feeling of loss and betrayal. This just means that the person you thought he was isn’t the person he really is. This person is not worth any tears so it’s best to just leave him.
  2. When you’re out of a relationship be thankful for the good times and be thankful that it’s over. Thank God you’re not with that loser anymore.
  3. Remember the gross stuff about the guy and be thankful that you two are through. Think about his blackheads, body odor and his dandruff. Thank God you didn’t end up with him.
  4. Leaving him opens the doors to a new relationship. How do you expect to meet “the one” if you’re still crying over your ex? Breaking up was the best thing for you because now you’re free to date better people.
  5. Remember that there was a time when you’ve lived without him. And you weren’t heartbroken then. So don’t be heartbroken now.
  6. Do not carry the sadness and bitterness for long. This will prolong your broken heart and make you not appreciate the finer things in life. Use this as an opportunity to grow, not to be beaten.
  7. Instead of being spiteful focus your energy on other things. You’ve got so much love to give. Give it to someone who will appreciate and nurture it. Volunteer to help other people and focus your love there.
  8. You just think that he’s the one but he’s not. There is someone out there for you but you haven’t met him yet. You’re sitting around moping about a guy when you could be having fun while waiting for the one.  Don’t be sad about him. He’s not worth your time anyway.

How to Compromise in a Relationship and Prevent a Breakup

June 4, 2010 by admin  
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  1. Remember that you two are of equal worth. Although you value her as your lover and your friend, remember that you too deserve the same love and attention that you give to her. Let her know through your actions that you aren’t her servant boy.
  2. Learn how far your power goes into a relationship. She cheated on you. You blame it on yourself because you had a fight yesterday. Screw that. That doesn’t give her license to do what she did. Don’t blame yourself when your partner acts up. She has control over her actions not you.
  3. Do not try to change yourself for her. It really depends on what you want to change. If it’s a bad quality or a destructive habit, then change it. But if it’s something as trivial as how you dress and carry yourself, then draw the line. She should accept you for who you are.
  4. Do not try to change her.What you see is what you get. This is why the selection process is of utmost importance. If she cheated on her previous boyfriend, she’s likely to doing it again so choose very wisely.
  5. Forgive her for her faults. Everyone makes mistakes once in a while. Depending on what she did, you should learn to forgive her. You’re bound to screw up too so look the other way even if it’s just this once.
  6. Remember the important dates of your life. Birthdays and anniversaries are a given, but you get extra points if you remember trivial things like your first kiss or your first date. Don’t be too sentimental though. Depending on how your girlfriend is like, she may or may not appreciate you remembering every single detail.
  7. Allow each other some personal space. Just because you are together doesn’t mean you have to know every little detail about her life. You need your privacy and she does too.
  8. Never stop flirting. Flirting keeps the romance hot. If you think you can stop flirting just because you’re already a couple, it doesn’t mean you can put your guard down. Make your romance as fun as it was when you were first starting out.

Seven Ways to Prevent Unnecessary Heartbreak

May 31, 2010 by admin  
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1. Collect and select—discreetly

One of the biggest injustices in life is that girls can have many suitors while boys can only court one girl at a time. But there’s a loophole in the deal: you can get to know a girl without proclaiming your undying love for her. Just be friendly and know whether or not you can be with this girl. Go out on friendly dates. Don’t be tied down to one girl immediately.

  1. 2. Do not settle for a girl just because she’s the only one who responds to your advances

This is a relationship that is doomed to failure. If you settle for the first girl who responds to your advances then you’re drastically limiting your choices. If you’re not that attracted to her then you may want to keep looking.

  1. 3. Do not settle with a girl just because she sleeps with you

This relationship will be fun at first but you’re soon going to realize how empty your relationship is, especially if you can’t stand her personality.

  1. 4. Choose a girl who you’re comfortable with

Are you comfortable telling things to her? Would you be friends with her even if you weren’t attracted to her? If you answered yes to both of these questions then she may be the one for you. You’ll know when you’re comfortable with a girl when you’re not trying too hard. This is because she accepts you for who you are.

  1. 5. Choose a girl who have the same values as you

If she’s not comfortable with having pre-marital sex and you are, then it’s obvious that you’ll clash somewhere in your relationship. Compromise is the key to these kinds of situations but if you’re not willing to do this then maybe she’s not the girl for you.

  1. 6. Do not concentrate so much in a girl’s looks.

This seems like the hardest one on the list. But you’d be surprised that being attracted to a girl despite her physical flaws is quite common. The looks reel you in but it’s the personality that keeps you going.

  1. 7. Choose a girl who shares your interests.

Common interest is the key to starting a great relationship. It’s what you’re going to talk about in the first few dates and it will keep you talking for longer than that.

Dating Tips for Women

May 25, 2010 by admin  
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Most women fret all day long about the date they have that night. This is because it is but natural for them to think about all of the things that could possible go wrong. But you don’t really have to worry about all that; there are ways to make sure that the evening will go smoothly.

First, be ready on time. The scene, wherein the date waits for the girl and gasps at the sight of her as she comes down the stairs, has forever been immortalized in our minds. We all want that magical moment. But no date would be in the mood to marvel at your beauty after waiting for two hours. Be prepared, look your best but be on time. A short 5 to 10 minute wait will be reasonable time for him to generate much anticipation to produce that awe when he sees you.

Second, dress comfortably. We all know that sky high heels are gorgeous but they don’t necessarily help in making the date a pleasant one. Be sure that you will be comfortable during the date, wear something that will make you feel like so. This is one of the best dating tips you will ever get.

The third dating tip is: talk and listen. Most bad dates are bad because of the lousy conversation. The woman is either too shy to engage in a conversation, or too talkative that she hardly lets him get a word in. Remember that the purpose of the conversation is so that the two of you can get to know each other better. So, do the right amount of talking and listing to fulfill that purpose.

Lastly, be yourself. This is a cliché but it is also a sound and effective advice. Do not try to be someone you are not. The purpose of the date is to provide the guy more information about yourself, and it would only make it pointless if you don’t let him get to know the real you. Plus, when you’re acting, or trying to project something other than your own personality, it sometimes comes across as fake. In addition, this dating tip could save you the trouble of keeping up the act when you get further along in you relationship.

Three Simple Dating Tips to Make your Night

May 25, 2010 by admin  
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Going on a date?

Are you feeling nervous?

Are you afraid that you might mess up the night?

Not to worry, just follow these guidelines and you’re guaranteed to have a next date even before she orders desert. These are some of the best dating tips you will need.

First, be on time. This is the first item on every dating tips list you can find out there. Women are known to take forever in getting ready for a date, but that is just one of the idiosyncrasies which make them more adorable. But tardiness in a man is not. Never make her wait. Women are many things but patient is rarely one of them. Your date begins, not at the time you get to the restaurant; it begins when the clock strikes the time you agreed upon. Moreover, this could set the mood for the rest of the evening. You want to start it right, not with a disappointed date.

Secondly, dress the part. Prepare for your date, if you planned to go to a fine restaurant, do not be happy with simply complying with the dress code, look your best. Your date most likely spent a good deal of time getting ready, and so should you. This will make her feel special because it is common knowledge that men are not really fond of getting themselves all dolled up.

Third and lastly, don’t make small talk, talk the talk. Small talk, when done badly could sometimes be insulting.  For example, if you’ve going a date with someone you’ve known forever, it would be silly to talk about the weather. Talk about things about the other person you are genuinely interested in, this way you won’t have to try to act interested because you will be. Try to come up with a list of talking points in your head so you would not have to deal with a moment of awkward silence. Don’t ask questions for the sake of asking them; ask about things you really want to know about. This would make the conversation engaging and steer clear of the boring.

Confidence

May 23, 2010 by admin  
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Confidence is half of the game. Most women are impressed simply by the sheer ability of a guy to carry himself well. In the same way, nothing turns women off more that a man who is not sure of himself. Women dream of being swept off their feet by a gallant prince-charming. Never in those dreams, however, was the prince charming timid man fumbling with his words.

Be confident, this is not as easy as the two words it takes to say it. But it is completely doable in time. In order to be a confident cat, you have to remember that, “All is fair in love or war.” It doesn’t matter if the next guy drives a Ferrari or has a Harvard Law degree. You have to remember that there are a million things about yourself that are yours alone. In order to seem confident, you have to be confident. There’s no two-ways about it.

When you are feeling insecure think about all of the things that only you can do or that you do best. Maybe you have mastered shooting hoops from the half court line, or maybe you can juggle ten bananas at once. These are small things you can draw confidence from. When you feel like you’re the lesser man, remember all of the things that you do that the other guy cannot. But as much as possible, try not to compare yourself to other people altogether. When you compare yourself to others, not only do make yourself envy, you also limit yourself with the good they can do. Try to find your confidence within yourself.

However, confidence sometimes comes dangerously close to arrogance. Be very careful not to cross this fine line. Never brag or name-drop, this only makes you look like a jerk. Remember that no matter how good you are, you do not have the right to look down at other people. Condescension is not confidence, its arrogance.

One of the key elements in dating is being confident. This confidence does not mean believing that you are better than everyone else; it simply means believing in your own self worth. Never put yourself down nor toot your own horn.