The Best Topics to Converse about With Your Man

The biggest misconception about men is that they are shallow.  The truth is many men are capable of deep thought.  Some of them may not show it, but a lot of men are really very good at thinking and analyzing.  But usually, they would only show you this side of them if they find you worthy.  In short, you have to strike up and intelligible conversation with them first.  For this reason, it is important to find great topics of conversation. Relationships are based a lot on communication.  If you want your man to be happy, aside from all the physical stimulation, you also have to provide him intellectual stimulation.

Men’s interest is actually very broad.  Contrary to popular belief, it doesn’t only revolve around babes and booze.  One of the best topics when conversing with men is politics.  Politics is actually a very multi-faceted and deep topic to talk about.  There are many sides to take and many subjecting opinions.  You don’t really have to have a political opinion, nor do you have to know a lot.  Just get some brief info on new political events and open them up with your man.  After that, let him tell you more about the topic.  You’ll see you man in a new light because you will learn his different political opinions.

Another great topic of conversation with men is sports.  A man is not man if he is not interested in at least on sport.  Find out what sport your man like and try to learn more about it.  Find out what are his favorite sports teams and the sports leagues he follows.  If you develop your own favorite team, then you can have little friendly arguments.  This will make your relationship more dynamic and exciting.

When looking for topics to talk about with your man, it is important to know his preferences.  Don’t push for a topic that he doesn’t really like or isn’t really interested in. Having conversations like this with your man will not only help you grow your relationship, you will also end up learning new things.

Things Your Should Never Say To Your Man

If there is one thing you should remember about men, it’s that you should never step on their pride.  Men live their lives based in pride.  Their very principles are founded on pride.  If you step on a man’s pride, you are basically waging war against him.  If you want your man to love you more, you should nurture his pride as much as you would nurture your relationship with him.  Unfortunately, women can say things that can injure a man’s pride, sometimes with even knowing it.  Here are a few things you should avoid saying to your man:

Women love to talk, especially to their men.  But there are things that you should never tell your man if you want his pride to be undamaged.  One of the things you should never tell you man about is details about your past sexual exploits.  Men are very territorial.  This sense of territory is directly proportional to their pride.  Men don’t like hearing how their women were, in the past, pleased by another man.  Even if it is already in the past and you no longer attach sentiments to the event, you should never bring this topic up.

Another thing you should never mention to your man is happy moments you had in your past relationships.  Never compare him with you past partners.  For men, if a woman mentions her ex, that means she is comparing the ex to him.  Although this is not true most of the time, you should still never mention this to him.  If you will be mentioning your ex at all, it should only be about the negative things that you experienced with them.  Instead of hurting your man’s pride, build it up by showing them how much better they are.

Communication is very important in a relationship.  But still, it is important to filter what you say when communicating with your man.  Men maybe hard on the outside, but they are soft as butter on the inside.  If you want to make your man happy, make him feel like he’s the best you’ve ever had.

What Men Really Mean When They Say Something

It is said that the best way to man’s heart is through his stomach.  It is said that men are visual rather than mental beings.  It is also said that men are as transparent as the clear waters of the sea.  A lot of people perceive men as predictable, dense, shallow easy to figure out.  For some men, this is true.  But it would really be an insult to them to generalize them this way.  Men are more three dimensional than women give them credit for.  You may not see them this way, but men can actually talk in a cryptic manner.  In order to make a relationship work with a man, you should understand the underlying things he’s trying to say.

One of the most mysterious lines of a man is not actually a line; it’s actually a sound.  The sigh is the most cryptic thing a man breathes out of his mouth.  Women are very sensitive.  And when a woman hears a sigh, it is quite impossible for her not to ask what’s wrong.  A lot of women get paranoid when they hear a sigh come out of a man’s mouth.  They automatically think that there is something wrong in the relationship.  What you should know about a man’s sigh is that it isn’t always about the relationship.

Even if he does this when you are together, it doesn’t mean that he has issues with you.  Men like to think of several things at the same time.  He could be with you but thinking about work or his family.  Men like to multitask more than anything.  A sigh might be his reaction to another thing he’s thinking about and not really on what currently going on physically.

When this happens, don’t dwell too much on the issue.  Ask him what’s wrong, but don’t react badly if he doesn’t want to talk about it.  The fact he is with you that very moment should be enough of a justification that he’s cool with you.  Avoid misunderstandings by understanding your man as much as you want him to understand you.

How to Choose the Right Guy for You

Emotions play a big part in a girl’s decision to choose a guy. A girl is usually attracted to boys who make them feel special. But almost every boy knows that this is what a girl looks for so they try to emulate this when they are courting you. Before you let your heart out of its cage and make a bad decision you must be able to detect which boy is genuine and which isn’t. While we can’t really do the deciding for you, here is a list of things you should take into consideration when choosing:

1. 1. Choose a boy who loves you as much as or more than you love him.

If you love him more than he loves you, you’ll be devastated when he leaves you. If he loves you more you’re sure he’ll never leave you—and even if he does you won’t be heartbroken.

1. 2. Choose a guy who’s not only there for sex.

How can you tell? Don’t sleep with him. If he stays despite that then you know he truly loves you.

1. 3. Choose a guy who’s emotionally stable

Because misery loves company he’ll most likely pull you down with him. Choose a person who is emotionally stable enough to carry his own weight. A person who’s insecure will constantly try to outdo you and try to make you feel insecure as well. You don’t need this in life.

1. 4. Choose a guy who’s financially stable

He doesn’t have to be rich; he just has to be able to take care of himself. By being able to take care of himself in all aspects of his life he shows that he is ready to take care of another person—you.

1. 5. Choose a guy who would choose you over anyone else

Make sure that you’re the person he really wants to be with.

1. 6. Avoid the possessive types

Sure it’s cute at first, but after a while, you’ll start to see that it’s becoming abusive. Telling you you’re his is romantic, but not allowing you to go out with friends is a totally different story.

1. 7. Verbal abuse is still abuse. Learn to spot it early

There is a difference between being tactless and verbally abusing your partner. Learn to know the difference

How to Recover From a Breakup

Break-ups are never easy, especially if you’ve invested a whole lot of feelings on the guy. When you’re in this kind of situation you have to be easy on yourself. Try not to be too sad for long though. You have a life! Here are some ideas on how to get over a guy and how to mend your broken heart.

1. Broken hearts are usually a feeling of loss and betrayal. This just means that the person you thought he was isn’t the person he really is. This person is not worth any tears so it’s best to just leave him.
2. When you’re out of a relationship be thankful for the good times and be thankful that it’s over. Thank God you’re not with that loser anymore.
3. Remember the gross stuff about the guy and be thankful that you two are through. Think about his blackheads, body odor and his dandruff. Thank God you didn’t end up with him.
4. Leaving him opens the doors to a new relationship. How do you expect to meet “the one” if you’re still crying over your ex? Breaking up was the best thing for you because now you’re free to date better people.
5. Remember that there was a time when you’ve lived without him. And you weren’t heartbroken then. So don’t be heartbroken now.
6. Do not carry the sadness and bitterness for long. This will prolong your broken heart and make you not appreciate the finer things in life. Use this as an opportunity to grow, not to be beaten.
7. Instead of being spiteful focus your energy on other things. You’ve got so much love to give. Give it to someone who will appreciate and nurture it. Volunteer to help other people and focus your love there.
8. You just think that he’s the one but he’s not. There is someone out there for you but you haven’t met him yet. You’re sitting around moping about a guy when you could be having fun while waiting for the one.  Don’t be sad about him. He’s not worth your time anyway.

How to Be Your Own Woman While In a Relationship

1. Be active in other areas of life.Don’t exhaust all your energy in your love life. You have your career, family and friends to think about. Try to give equal importance to everything you have in life. If you center your activities on one person and that person leaves, you will inevitably get burned out.
2. Love yourself more. You are the most important thing in your life. It is you and not some guy. Remember that when a guy does something bad to break your heart always remember that he’s not worth all the trouble of being sad for.
3. Focus on your career or whatever you’re good at. You are not a woman defined by your man. You are a woman with your own thing going on. You love and support each other in whatever you do. Being your own woman makes you even more attractive to the opposite sex.
4. Have your own life. Don’t always be available on his every whim. Let him miss you once in a while. If you’re always there then the spiciness of a romance can easily wane. But don’t be gone for too long lest he starts looking around.
5. Do not place your happiness on a single person. If he’s mad, you’re sad. If he’s happy, you’re happy. This isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship. Giving him total control of your emotions will make you an emotional wreck. Remember that happiness should come from you and not from anywhere or anyone else.
6. Learn to differentiate dependence from love. There is a big difference between love and dependence. Love is an action. Love is caring and giving. Dependence is needing and wanting. Do not go for a guy who needs you but abuses you. Dependent relationships are unhealthy relationships.
7. If you think that you are a dependent person then you should get out of relationships for a while. Dependency will only cause further heartbreaks in the long run. Dependent people are usually those who cannot last long without being in a relationship. Women in these situations should learn to live on their own and find themselves.  It’s better to suffer now then to suffer again and again.

Seven Ways to Stop Getting Your Heart Broken By a Douche

Don’t pay too much attention on what a boy says

Always remember that most boys will say absolutely anything to get into your pants. That means that there will be a few promises made that are meant to be broken. Know when they’re telling the truth. Just smile and decline offers. Don’t listen to everything he says, and pay more attention to how he acts.

1. Don’t give everything you’ve got all at once. If you really like this guy and want him to stay around longer then don’t give all of your goods in one go. This means that you should probably wait a few days before kissing him and a few weeks or months before having sex.
2. Don’t invest too much emotion early in the game. This is the surefire way to get your heart broken. It’s really too early to say if you’ll be together forever so try not to love him with all of your heart, especially if you haven’t reached the 3^rd date.
3. Listen to how he talks about other people– especially his ex. How he treats his ex is how he’s going to treat you. No ifs and buts about it. He may have changed for you but don’t be surprised if he does anything that makes you doubt his character
4. Have more realistic standards. We all want someone who’s tall, smart, handsome and funny but the truth is, we’re already lucky enough to find two of these traits in one guy. Lowering your standards doesn’t mean settling, it means accepting that your guy is not perfect. Realizing that he’s not perfect will also make you more forgiving of future flaws and will let the relationship last longer.
5. Do not look  for him to complete you. Don’t ever think that your life will not be complete without a significant other. Your life is already complete. Having a boyfriend is just an added bonus. When that boyfriend is taken away you should still be happy and be able to function well in life.
6. Be genuine friends first. A good relationship always has a strong foundation.

Calm Down, Miss Independent

You don’t have a boyfriend. Even if you did have a boyfriend you know you won’t be able to keep him for long. You don’t understand why. You’re an independent woman. You take care of yourself; you don’t take let anyone step on your dignity. And yet for some reason, men seem to be avoiding the plague.

It’s not you, it’s them. No really, it is. They’re intimidated by you. And who wouldn’t be? You’re smart, beautiful and you can take care of yourself. You don’t need anyone and you certainly don’t need a man in your life to complete you, so where does that leave him in your life? He’s afraid that he’ll never be good enough for you so he decides to go for another girl instead.

They can’t help it though. They’re wired that way. Men see themselves as providers. They think that they are supposed to be the strong ones in a relationship. When you exude an aura of omnipotence you’ll scare the living daylights out of an average male. You may think that they’re insecure and you’re probably right but if you want to find a stable, loving boyfriend you’re going to have to lower your roar, lioness.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll purposely demean your achievements or make yourself less independent. It most certainly does not mean making yourself sound ditzy or dumb. You’re more than that! This just means that despite your achievements and despite your amazing-ness, you are still approachable. Don’t scare off a guy by making him feel that if he screws up he’s going to be dead meat. Let him feel like he is an important part of your life. Let him feel important by allowing him to provide for you and protect you. Let him be the man in your relationship. Give him equal importance. Show him that you care for him and that you’ll let him care for you.

When a guy approaches you for the first time don’t pounce on him lioness. Give him a chance. Converse with him but don’t try too hard. Just smile and be approaching.

Meeting Men Everywhere

All around us, there seems to be more and more tangible proof that women outnumber men. Almost everywhere we go, we are confronted by the fact that there are more women than men. But not to worry, this does not necessarily mean that meeting men is a difficult feat. The worst mistake women nowadays could make in meeting men is thinking that it is so difficult. This thought creates so much unnecessary pressure and takes the fun out of it. Meeting men should be looked at as an adventure, an unplanned adventure that will end in a pleasant surprise. Don’t think too much of it, meeting men is one of those tasks that are easier when you just wing it.

Every time you go somewhere is an opportunity to meet a new guy. It doesn’t matter if you’re at the grocery store or at a fabulous bar. Think about going anywhere as an open invitation to make new friends. When you think about it this way, you start to make changes in yourself that will ultimately help you meet new people or men, particularly, without you even knowing it. When you’re about to meet someone new, you dress up, you prepare yourself and equip yourself with the right things to make you ready to give a good first impression.

The key to meeting new guys is always giving off good vibes. Nobody wants make friends with the Grinch right? Try to always look friendly and amiable. Find something to smile about, but do it naturally.  When you look blooming and approachable, it eliminates the only barrier there is in meeting new people. The only thing keeping the guy next to you on the grocery stand is his fear of being shut down or embarrassed. If you make him feel like you’re a nice person, he would totally be there in a heartbeat.

What you need to do is to make yourself available for opportunities in meeting new people, and always be prepared to make a good impression. Put a little lip gloss on even if you’re just taking out the trash, or try to wear cute outfits even if you’re just going to the gym.

Lastly, do not limit yourself. Keep on trying new things, go to places you’ve never been before and prepare yourself to be pleasantly surprised.

Dating Tips for Women

Most women fret all day long about the date they have that night. This is because it is but natural for them to think about all of the things that could possible go wrong. But you don’t really have to worry about all that; there are ways to make sure that the evening will go smoothly.

First, be ready on time. The scene, wherein the date waits for the girl and gasps at the sight of her as she comes down the stairs, has forever been immortalized in our minds. We all want that magical moment. But no date would be in the mood to marvel at your beauty after waiting for two hours. Be prepared, look your best but be on time. A short 5 to 10 minute wait will be reasonable time for him to generate much anticipation to produce that awe when he sees you.

Second, dress comfortably. We all know that sky high heels are gorgeous but they don’t necessarily help in making the date a pleasant one. Be sure that you will be comfortable during the date, wear something that will make you feel like so. This is one of the best dating tips you will ever get.

The third dating tip is: talk and listen. Most bad dates are bad because of the lousy conversation. The woman is either too shy to engage in a conversation, or too talkative that she hardly lets him get a word in. Remember that the purpose of the conversation is so that the two of you can get to know each other better. So, do the right amount of talking and listing to fulfill that purpose.

Lastly, be yourself. This is a cliché but it is also a sound and effective advice. Do not try to be someone you are not. The purpose of the date is to provide the guy more information about yourself, and it would only make it pointless if you don’t let him get to know the real you. Plus, when you’re acting, or trying to project something other than your own personality, it sometimes comes across as fake. In addition, this dating tip could save you the trouble of keeping up the act when you get further along in you relationship.