Seven Ways to Prevent Unnecessary Heartbreak

1. Collect and select—discreetly

One of the biggest injustices in life is that girls can have many suitors while boys can only court one girl at a time. But there’s a loophole in the deal: you can get to know a girl without proclaiming your undying love for her. Just be friendly and know whether or not you can be with this girl. Go out on friendly dates. Don’t be tied down to one girl immediately.

1. 2. Do not settle for a girl just because she’s the only one who responds to your advances

This is a relationship that is doomed to failure. If you settle for the first girl who responds to your advances then you’re drastically limiting your choices. If you’re not that attracted to her then you may want to keep looking.

1. 3. Do not settle with a girl just because she sleeps with you

This relationship will be fun at first but you’re soon going to realize how empty your relationship is, especially if you can’t stand her personality.

1. 4. Choose a girl who you’re comfortable with

Are you comfortable telling things to her? Would you be friends with her even if you weren’t attracted to her? If you answered yes to both of these questions then she may be the one for you. You’ll know when you’re comfortable with a girl when you’re not trying too hard. This is because she accepts you for who you are.

1. 5. Choose a girl who have the same values as you

If she’s not comfortable with having pre-marital sex and you are, then it’s obvious that you’ll clash somewhere in your relationship. Compromise is the key to these kinds of situations but if you’re not willing to do this then maybe she’s not the girl for you.

1. 6. Do not concentrate so much in a girl’s looks.

This seems like the hardest one on the list. But you’d be surprised that being attracted to a girl despite her physical flaws is quite common. The looks reel you in but it’s the personality that keeps you going.

1. 7. Choose a girl who shares your interests.

Common interest is the key to starting a great relationship. It’s what you’re going to talk about in the first few dates and it will keep you talking for longer than that.

Meeting Women in New Places

Are you a regular dater?

Just got out of a relationship?

Do you want a relationship?

Is your dating life in a rut?

The first thing you need to do is meet new women. Meeting women should not be seen as a strategic plan, it is actually a fun and exciting thing.

Meeting women is something a bachelor should always look forward to. Never think of it as a sport or a game where you need to make elaborate plans or a dreamy scheme. The best way to meet women, in hopes of finding the perfect partner for a relationship, is to do it spontaneously.

There are a million places to meet women; the trick is to figure out what type of woman you want to meet, and what you want to get out of that opportunity. For example, if you want to meet a sporty girl, you can go to health clubs and gyms. If you want to meet party girls, they’re most likely to be in clubs. You have to remember however that these are not hard cold stereotypes that are 100 percent accurate. Be careful not to box people you meet at certain places in one category.

If you’ve been out of the loop for a while, try going out alone, without you friends or your proverbial wing man. This way, you would not feel too conscious about the things you do. Most people find more courage in coming up to a woman when they know that even if they get rejected, nobody but the woman would have to know about it. The playful banters among your peers are sometimes a cause of insecurity when it comes to meeting women.

Be open to new experience, try going to new places and don’t just limit the things you can and cannot do. Try expanding your social network by frequenting places that you do not usually go to. Try having your daily end-of-the-day coffee at a different coffee place, or try going to a newly opened club. Changing the scene would send allow you to meet new people. Be spontaneous, and confident. Keep yourself open.