Attraction in Men

Attracting men is like a craft all on its own. It sometimes happens spontaneously but more often than not, you really have to put effort into it, hence the immortalized cliché:”put out”. But the good thing about it, it’s not like a first impression. You get as many chances as the number of time he sees you. You can be friends with one guy since childhood and then one day, out of nowhere, he falls in love with you. It takes on moment to go from one of the boys to the girl he picks over the boys. Even if you’ve known him for years or have only just met him at a bar, it takes the same moment to make him see you as his next girlfriend. Like I said, it takes one moment. What you need to know is how to orchestrate that moment: how to make that moment happen.

First you have to look perfect yet vulnerable. You have to look just right. You have to look fun yet not too fun. Do not exaggerate anything, in this sense, the golden mean is applicable. Looking overly done turns men off. You have to look like you did not put too much effort into how you look, in a way even the way you put make up on must seem natural. You have to look like you have a brain too and that you did not spend the whole day in front of the mirror. The different los you have on may send different messages, for example, showing too much skin would make you seem like you’re easy, or wearing too much make up might say you’re trying too hard. Find a sweet spot between all dolled up and totally bare. In addition, you have to look vulnerable. A strong woman may be admirable and impressive, but a woman too strong may also be looked at as intimidating, hence might scare men off. Men like being needed, it helps massage their ego. Be careful that you don’t come off too strong.

Secondly, remember to keep a little mystery. As much as men would like to think that they are all alpha dogs, there is always a curious cat in all of them. Nothing excites men more than a little mystery.  You have to let them know enough to engage them in the hunt, but leave as much to the imagination as you can. Let them go crazy trying to figure you out. This mystery paves the way for that magical moment when he finds out something about you or sees it in you and knocks his socks off.