Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part V – How to Keep Your Relationship Strong

So you are finally done with the whole getting-to-know-you stage. At this point, you do not have to snag him anymore simply because he is officially yours. You are now a couple! Now you can finally rest and be contented with the outcome of your efforts.

But here is the thing though, are you really supposed to just rest and bask in your glory so to speak?

Of course not! This is because having a relationship with Mr. Hottie (whom I think we should now call Mr. Right) is just the start. You have to continually work for your relationship to be successful. And your work starts with understanding who he is as a person.

See, when you are already with him, that is when you will be given the chance to see and discover some aspects of his personality that you may have never noticed before. Be warned that most likely, you would not love every new discovery. But then again, you cannot really dump him just because he farts too much or he barfs a lot right? Instead, you must learn how to tolerate these little things. After all, you have to remember that you are also not perfect at all. So who knows, he may also see a lot of things that he has to tolerate about you.

Also, now that you are both in the next level, try to open up your line of communication to your partner. If you can, try to avoid keeping secrets from him that can potentially destroy your relationship. So if you feel that he has to know something about you, then let him know. Be reminded that only when you are honest to him can you expect him to be honest to you.

Lastly, no matter how much you love being with him and seeing him all the time, try to still live your life as an individual. Keep spending time with your friends and try to develop a new hobby if you want to. This part is important because when you both keep on developing individually, you get to be more mature on your disposition in life and love.

And that ladies conclude the series on “Getting Mr. Hottie”. Hope you guys learned a lot and good luck!

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part IV – Creative Ways to Tell Him You Love Him

After observing him for a couple of weeks, you are finally convinced that he loves you. Yes, he has not really told you yet but you really care less. As long as he shows you how he feels towards you, then you are fine.

Now, your plan of telling him how you feel is in the picture again. But because you want it to be really special, you want to stay away from the usual scene where you just blurt it out. Thing is, because you are not exactly “creative” you seem to be running out of ideas. But just like before, you should not panic because if ideas are what you need then I think that I can help you with that.

So without further delay, here are simple but creative ways how you can tell him the three words.

1. Write and mail him a letter. Yes, you read that right. Mail – as in the old fashioned way. Telling him how you feel through and SMS or an email is just not romantic at all and it does not seem like you even spent any effort.
2. If writing on paper is not that impressive to you, then write where he least expects you to – like his bathroom mirror perhaps. Just take bath soap and use that as a writing material instead of a pen.
3. Say it with music. Compile a CD of your favorite songs and somewhere within the tracks, record your voice as you confess to him how much he means to you. Then give the CD to him and ask him to listen to it before he sleeps.
4. Take him out to dinner. As in surprise him by volunteering to fetch him and paying for the bill. And some time during your dinner, hold his hand and tell him what you have to say.

Those are 4 simple but creative things that you can do to let him know that you care for him. Of course you do not have to follow those tips to the last detail.

If you want you can tweak them a bit to make them seem more you than me.

Catching Your Dream Girl Part IV – Special Ways How You Can Say “I Love You”

After much thought, you have finally decided to get in a real relationship with her. But in order to mark the day when you will finally become a couple, you want to do something for her, say “I Love You” in a different but special way.

Now to help you to do just that, here are some ideas that you can perhaps work on.

1. Send her some flowers. No, do not just send her a single bulk of her favorite blooms. Instead ask your florist to send her a bouquet every single hour. On each bouquet, write down a word from your message and keep the flowers coming in until you finally complete what it is that you are trying to say.The message can be anything from a simple “I Love You” to the more romantic “I Love You Jane. Will you be my girl?” It is really up to you, just be creative.
2. Go to a print shop and ask them to make a small tarpaulin for you that contains a similar message to the one written above. Then surprise her by posting that tarp on her door. After that, hide and wait for her until she gets home and sees your message. If you see that she is pleased, do a follow up by showing yourself and handing her flowers.
3. If you are someone who can really pull some strings, then take her to a concert or performance of your favorite band or singer. Request them to sing your song and ask them to dedicate it to her. After the song, hold her hand and whisper to her the words that you want to say.
4. If your lady is a pet lover, then try to tell her what you feel through a dog, a cat or lovebirds. Just give her the pet that she always wanted but never got to have and agree on taking turns in taking care of it. However note that if you are planning to do this, you must be up to the challenge of being a responsible parent to an animal. If you cannot commit, then do not even think about it.

Those are 4 tips that I can share with you. Hopefully those gave you an idea what you can do. Good Luck!



Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part III – How to Know If He Loves You

So you two have been dating for a few months now. As you get to know him, you find that “Mr. Hottie” is not just hot. He is also thoughtful, caring, responsible and every wonderful adjective that you can think of. And because of that, you found yourself falling for him fast.

Now you want to tell him about your feelings but the scared little girl inside you is screaming “Not yet! Wait till he tells you first!”

Yes, unfortunately he has not told you the three precious words yet. But you should not feel bad because some guys do have a problem in expressing how they feel. So sometimes, what they cannot say, they show. To you this means, instead of waiting and waiting for him to say it, just watch his actions to see if he is in to you.

How exactly would you know?

Well, here are some telltale signs.

1. When you meet, he does not just yap about himself, his terrible day at work and his family life. Instead he asks you how have you been doing and he is interested with what you have done since you’ve seen him last.
2. He listens when you tell him something important. In fact, he listens to you so much that he knows your friends and family even if he has not really seen them yet.
3. He is willing to give in to your little whims. He does your errands for you if you are feeling a little lazy and when you eat at home, he volunteers to do the dishes with you.
4. He tells you that you are beautiful even if you are having the worst of your bad hair days, even if your eyes are puffy from lack of sleep and even when zits are coming out of your face.
5. He tells you off when you are doing something bad. That means that he does not like you to go astray when you are with him. And finally…
6. He just cannot stop touching and holding you. After you make love, he stays to keep you close as you guys fall asleep.

Now when you see those signs, do not doubt anymore because pretty sure he is in love with you.

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part II – How to Survive Your First Date with Him

So after a few more encounters, you finally got “The Invite” that you were waiting for. He asked you out for dinner!

Psyched about it, you are practically wracking your brain on what you should and should not do on your date. You do not want to screw it up so right now, you are basically open to any inputs.

And if you want inputs, then I will give you just that. Here are some tips that I can share you.

1. Do not over think about the dress that you are about to wear. Just be safe with your choice. Do not wear something too dressy and avoid going dressed down as well. This way he would feel comfortable taking you anywhere be it a fine dining restaurant or a casual dining establishment.
2. Engage him in an easy going conversation. This will be the best way for you to gauge how comfortable he is with you. And as you talk, just let him dictate the pace and listen. Do not rush him to open up. He will talk once he is ready.
3. And again, be yourself. Do not pretend to be someone you’re not. Keep in mind that he asked “you” for a date and not some perfect little Barbie Doll. So just go ahead and talk the way you would if you are talking to your friends. Doing this will give you a more “natural” aura and believe it or not, that will help him cozy up to you.
4. Do not be that overly proud girl who would offer to pay her part of the bill on the first date. I mean that is just rude and kind of insulting to your beau. Now if you are not someone who is comfortable with having someone pay for you all the time, then maybe offer to go Dutch during your 3^rd or 4^th date. At that point, offering to pay for yourself may even give you a plus point because that signifies that you can take care of yourself.

Those are the things that you must and must not do during your first date with him. Hopefully knowing this helped you relax a bit and your anticipation to get together with him more anxious.

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part I – How to Get His Attention

You have seen him two or three times hanging out at your favorite bar.

Ever since you had your eyes on him, you cannot help but throw side glances at him. And why the hell not? He is just so gorgeous! Yet you sigh, knowing that you can never have your hands on that fine gentleman.

But hey, do not give up yet. As long as “Mr. Hottie” does not have a ring on his finger then you have a chance. So knock the shy girl out of your system and make your move.

Now the question is, what exactly can you do to get him to notice you?

Given the fact that you only encounter each other in a bar, you have to make it a point that you stand out a bit. Note, however, that “standing out” does not have to translate to dressing in a super tight blouse and a very short skirt.

That outfit may catch his eye for a short while but some men are simply not interested with women who dress like that. They fantasize about them yes, but they are not exactly the type of women they would want to take home and introduce to their mother.

So instead, just maybe try to dress up a little bit. If you are a woman who likes wearing black when going to the bar, just bring some colors to your wardrobe. Add a touch of red – men always find that color sexy.

Once you get his attention and you notice him looking at you, do not play coy by looking away. Just smile and say hi. Who knows, after that smile you might be getting a drink coming from him anytime soon. And if he did send you a drink, have the courtesy to walk over to him and say thank you. After that have a casual talk with him, find out what his interests are and let him know yours.

Oh and do not attempt to linger because that makes you look a little desperate. Give him a firm hand shake, throw him your best smile and tell him you loved meeting him and move on. You will know that you got his interest when he approaches you the next time you see each other again.

Now if your first attempt did not work, do not fret because pretty sure, you will still get another shot at it.

Catching Your Dream Girl Part I – How to Get Her to Notice You

Each man has his own dream girl – that is something every man should admit to himself. And just like women, most males would do everything in their power to get her or at least catch her eye. But how hard is it to get her to see you?

Well, to tell you honestly, it is not really hard at all. This is because of the fact that women in general are more into details and are appreciative. So every little thing you do counts.

For example, if you want her to turn her eyes to you, then try to stand out. Not by being obnoxious of course but by being the exact opposite – by being respectful and caring. You have to somehow convey that you are not the typical man who is only concerned about himself but you also care about the people and other things around you.

How exactly can you show her this?

You can do simple things like opening a door for a lady, giving up your seat in the subway or helping a kid carry his stuff. All those may seem a little cheesy yes, but believe it or not, those things work because they do not fail in making her sigh in awe. Here is a warning though, if you plan to be chivalrous just to her attention, then make sure that you can carry it through. Otherwise if you seem inconsistent then that may just turn her off.

Now, if you are not really the type of guy who is into that sensitive stuff, you would not really have to change everything about you to get her. Remember this, women also love confident men, so muster up your courage, walk up to her, and introduce yourself. That will pretty much do it for you. Just try not to scare her by saying “Hey I’m Joe and I like you.” That is not flattering at all, in fact that may seem like a line coming from a stalker or something.

Those are some tips that I can share you. To sum it all up, for you to get a girl’s attention, you would just have to be nice, be confident and be yourself.

Get Yourself a Guy, Boyfriend 101

Around 6 out 10 women today are single, unattached, or have “it’s complicated” as their relationship status in the major social online networks. Are you tired of being single? Are you itching to change that relationship status and do you want to have a regular date to the movies? All women do, and it’s about time you do something about it.

Get a boyfriend now. Make yourself open and available for a relationship. First, be ready for a commitment. Most women nowadays have commitment issues. Before you go out there and get a boyfriend, ask yourself twice if you are ready for all the complications it brings with it. Relationships should not be seen as strapping yourself down or locking a ball and chain on your ankle. IT is simply a matter of finding the right person.

Do not be too choosy but never settle easily. To make sure that you get the boyfriend who is right for you, know what you want, what you expect and what you are willing to give. Think about the qualities you are looking for in a boyfriend and make sure they are realistic and reasonable ones. Be sure as well that you are ready to give as much as you intend to get from this relationship.

The next step is to find the lucky guy. This is where most women get stuck. It’s actually a lot simpler than is seems. You just need to open yourself up to opportunities and the possibility of love. Be open to going to new places, meeting new people and getting to know others more. These are the three things you need to do in order to get yourself a boyfriend. Do not plan too far ahead when it comes to relationships; just let nature and fate run their normal course. Getting a boyfriend is one thing that cannot be forced. Just let it flow naturally.

Your job is to put yourself out there. Be available. Do not cram your calendar with work and other obligations, make time for yourself and work on your personal relationships. Getting a boyfriend is not an automatic process, it takes times and energy but it is fun. After all, it takes a few errors in trial to come up with the perfect match.