Screw the Pick Up Line! Strike a Conversation!

Your dates, for some reason, always end in disaster. You’ve come home cursing your lack of flirting skills and below average social skills. You start to wonder if it was something you did.

Chances are it’s something you did and didn’t do! Flirting is a game you have to play and enjoy. And what you do is just as important as what you don’t do. Some people know the rules by instinct, others had to learn it. It’s never too late to learn how to flirt even if you’re social abilities have been likened to an asexual flower.

A common mistake that guys do when picking up girls is using a pick up line. When, in the history of dating, has pick up lines ever work? Unless you’re trying to be funny or you’re just that outrageously good looking that women would forgive your lapse in judgment then you’d better ditch the cheese. Yes, she’s probably heard that before.

What you need to do instead is to strike up a conversation. You can talk about anything around you. For instance you noticed that she ordered a drink. Ask her if it’s any good. When you can’t think of anything to say, look around you. Think: who, what, when, where and how; current events, famous personalities a good movie anything that can start a conversation. From there you can keep the conversation going. Remember not to try to hard though. Try to avoid awkward silences but don’t keep babbling either. Learn to read body language in order to make sure that she’s still interested. Show that you’re interested in her with your body language but don’t say anything explicitly yet. Striking up the balance between the two is the tricky bit.

Learn to know when a woman is not interested. Learn to take rejection well. Although your goal is to get women to like you, you’re not going to attract everyone. You’ll be wasting your precious time and effort on a girl who is not into you when you can move on to the next equally beautiful or even more gorgeous girl.