Meeting Single Women Online

Okay, I will weigh in on the issue of online dating as I have had some good
experience with it. This group is about what works and has been field tested. I
will submit this supplement to my prior post 11905 (Online Dating, or should I
say, Online Screening). Read that post in addition to this one to get a better
picture of what has worked for me.

Before I ever went online looking to meet a woman, I got my act together. I lost
weight. I got a new, casual, hip look. I got a new haircut and some new clothes.
I prepared myself mentally to meet people. I became outgoing and overcame my
hangups with approaching beautiful women. I learned to flirt. I have an
interesting job, am well read, educated, traveled and have some interesting
hobbies. I can easily hold someone¢s attention for an extended period of time.

Only after all of that, I created an online profile. My online profile was a
supplement to me going out regularly and working on myself and interacting with
women.

PHOTOS

I use REAL photos of me randomly taken. I have photos of me with my friends. I
even have photos of me taken when I was at my heaviest. Why? Because the women
who are not turned off by that are the ones I want to meet. They get the REAL me
- the good, the bad and the ugly (which I never was). The photos are fairly high
resolution. Additionally, I am frequently told that I am much more handsome in
person which probably helps me when I actually meet the woman.

PROFILE

My profile is very unique, and sometimes I would get email from women who were
not interested in me just to tell me how funny it is and ask if I was the
author. I am. I simply posted one of my little blogs.

SERVICE

I subscribed to match.com and had an okcupid account. I liked the functionality
of okcupid more than match, but match seemed to be more productive. I also
posted a funny story on craigslist three times with a picture of me. Each time I
did that, I met someone I considered to be a quality candidate. However, I don¢t
recommend craigslist because of the HUGE amount of spam. But, I did meet some
interesting people there.

RESULTS

Of the women I have dated, I tended to have more and longer relationships with
the women I met online. My theory for this is because by glancing at an online
profile, I was able to readily screen for certain traits that I know would annoy
me. As such, I just did not contact those whose values were too different from
mine.

In terms of quantity, I might get a 10 – 20% response to emails I sent out.
Furthermore, because of my myspace page, 90% of those who contacted me would be
run off or intimidated or something else that turned them off. That was fine for
me because I used the myspace page as a screening tool. It did what I wanted it
to do. As such, I never had a bad date from anyone I met on the net after I
started using myspace.

When I would initially contact someone, I would include OBVIOUS references to
their profile proving that I read and considered it. If nothing interesting
jumped out at me, I just never send a message. It is really that simple. I have
been told that my emails come off as a little bit cocky and funny. However, I
don¢t do the David D¢Angleo stuff. That is just my personality.

A WORD OF CAUTION

I would not recommend that anyone do exactly what I have done as what I did runs
off the VAST majority of women. The perception is that I am a player which is
completely false. The fact is that I am looking for one particular woman, and
have to go through a large number of them to find THE ONE which matches me.

It should also be noted that even women I meet out socially get the same
impression. It has been my observation that once we become “good” with the
opposite sex we are labeled “players” because only players are consistently
successful with women.

If you email me privately, I can send you links to my profiles. However, they
are off right now as I have been seeing someone, and I don¢t want however many
thousands of guys to diluting the impact of what I wrote in my profiles.
I hope this information helps some of you.

REMEMBER: IT ISN¢T ABOUT BEING GOOD ONLINE. YOU HAVE TO BE GOOD (EVEN BETTER) IN
PERSON. Focus on yourself and overcoming your own limitations.

Do go though and read the archives. There is A LOT of good advice there. Some of
the guys here really know what they are doing and they offer some good advice.
Several of us come from different perspectives and have different goals.
Personally, I have found the people here to be informative and their assistance
is very valuable. If one idea does not work for you and your personality, just
move to the next one. Somebody will eventually offer you some advice that will
be of use to you.

A little over a year ago, I was the typical guy – a little too shy to approach
someone I did not know. But, when my marriage ended, I realized I did not want
to be alone and I wanted an improvement over my ex. I simply made the decision
to be gregarious and outgoing and do well with the opposite sex. I won¢t say it
was easy. If it were, everyone would be great with women. But, it is possible.

Good luck.