Confidence

Confidence is half of the game. Most women are impressed simply by the sheer ability of a guy to carry himself well. In the same way, nothing turns women off more that a man who is not sure of himself. Women dream of being swept off their feet by a gallant prince-charming. Never in those dreams, however, was the prince charming timid man fumbling with his words.

Be confident, this is not as easy as the two words it takes to say it. But it is completely doable in time. In order to be a confident cat, you have to remember that, “All is fair in love or war.” It doesn’t matter if the next guy drives a Ferrari or has a Harvard Law degree. You have to remember that there are a million things about yourself that are yours alone. In order to seem confident, you have to be confident. There’s no two-ways about it.

When you are feeling insecure think about all of the things that only you can do or that you do best. Maybe you have mastered shooting hoops from the half court line, or maybe you can juggle ten bananas at once. These are small things you can draw confidence from. When you feel like you’re the lesser man, remember all of the things that you do that the other guy cannot. But as much as possible, try not to compare yourself to other people altogether. When you compare yourself to others, not only do make yourself envy, you also limit yourself with the good they can do. Try to find your confidence within yourself.

However, confidence sometimes comes dangerously close to arrogance. Be very careful not to cross this fine line. Never brag or name-drop, this only makes you look like a jerk. Remember that no matter how good you are, you do not have the right to look down at other people. Condescension is not confidence, its arrogance.

One of the key elements in dating is being confident. This confidence does not mean believing that you are better than everyone else; it simply means believing in your own self worth. Never put yourself down nor toot your own horn.