How to Recover From a Breakup

Break-ups are never easy, especially if you’ve invested a whole lot of feelings on the guy. When you’re in this kind of situation you have to be easy on yourself. Try not to be too sad for long though. You have a life! Here are some ideas on how to get over a guy and how to mend your broken heart.

1. Broken hearts are usually a feeling of loss and betrayal. This just means that the person you thought he was isn’t the person he really is. This person is not worth any tears so it’s best to just leave him.
2. When you’re out of a relationship be thankful for the good times and be thankful that it’s over. Thank God you’re not with that loser anymore.
3. Remember the gross stuff about the guy and be thankful that you two are through. Think about his blackheads, body odor and his dandruff. Thank God you didn’t end up with him.
4. Leaving him opens the doors to a new relationship. How do you expect to meet “the one” if you’re still crying over your ex? Breaking up was the best thing for you because now you’re free to date better people.
5. Remember that there was a time when you’ve lived without him. And you weren’t heartbroken then. So don’t be heartbroken now.
6. Do not carry the sadness and bitterness for long. This will prolong your broken heart and make you not appreciate the finer things in life. Use this as an opportunity to grow, not to be beaten.
7. Instead of being spiteful focus your energy on other things. You’ve got so much love to give. Give it to someone who will appreciate and nurture it. Volunteer to help other people and focus your love there.
8. You just think that he’s the one but he’s not. There is someone out there for you but you haven’t met him yet. You’re sitting around moping about a guy when you could be having fun while waiting for the one.  Don’t be sad about him. He’s not worth your time anyway.

How to Compromise in a Relationship and Prevent a Breakup

1. Remember that you two are of equal worth. Although you value her as your lover and your friend, remember that you too deserve the same love and attention that you give to her. Let her know through your actions that you aren’t her servant boy.
2. Learn how far your power goes into a relationship. She cheated on you. You blame it on yourself because you had a fight yesterday. Screw that. That doesn’t give her license to do what she did. Don’t blame yourself when your partner acts up. She has control over her actions not you.
3. Do not try to change yourself for her. It really depends on what you want to change. If it’s a bad quality or a destructive habit, then change it. But if it’s something as trivial as how you dress and carry yourself, then draw the line. She should accept you for who you are.
4. Do not try to change her.What you see is what you get. This is why the selection process is of utmost importance. If she cheated on her previous boyfriend, she’s likely to doing it again so choose very wisely.
5. Forgive her for her faults. Everyone makes mistakes once in a while. Depending on what she did, you should learn to forgive her. You’re bound to screw up too so look the other way even if it’s just this once.
6. Remember the important dates of your life. Birthdays and anniversaries are a given, but you get extra points if you remember trivial things like your first kiss or your first date. Don’t be too sentimental though. Depending on how your girlfriend is like, she may or may not appreciate you remembering every single detail.
7. Allow each other some personal space. Just because you are together doesn’t mean you have to know every little detail about her life. You need your privacy and she does too.
8. Never stop flirting. Flirting keeps the romance hot. If you think you can stop flirting just because you’re already a couple, it doesn’t mean you can put your guard down. Make your romance as fun as it was when you were first starting out.

How to Be Your Own Woman While In a Relationship

1. Be active in other areas of life.Don’t exhaust all your energy in your love life. You have your career, family and friends to think about. Try to give equal importance to everything you have in life. If you center your activities on one person and that person leaves, you will inevitably get burned out.
2. Love yourself more. You are the most important thing in your life. It is you and not some guy. Remember that when a guy does something bad to break your heart always remember that he’s not worth all the trouble of being sad for.
3. Focus on your career or whatever you’re good at. You are not a woman defined by your man. You are a woman with your own thing going on. You love and support each other in whatever you do. Being your own woman makes you even more attractive to the opposite sex.
4. Have your own life. Don’t always be available on his every whim. Let him miss you once in a while. If you’re always there then the spiciness of a romance can easily wane. But don’t be gone for too long lest he starts looking around.
5. Do not place your happiness on a single person. If he’s mad, you’re sad. If he’s happy, you’re happy. This isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship. Giving him total control of your emotions will make you an emotional wreck. Remember that happiness should come from you and not from anywhere or anyone else.
6. Learn to differentiate dependence from love. There is a big difference between love and dependence. Love is an action. Love is caring and giving. Dependence is needing and wanting. Do not go for a guy who needs you but abuses you. Dependent relationships are unhealthy relationships.
7. If you think that you are a dependent person then you should get out of relationships for a while. Dependency will only cause further heartbreaks in the long run. Dependent people are usually those who cannot last long without being in a relationship. Women in these situations should learn to live on their own and find themselves.  It’s better to suffer now then to suffer again and again.

How to Meet the Girl of Your Dreams

1. Go out more often. How do you expect to meet the woman of your dreams if you’re always at home playing with your Xbox? Keeping yourself stagnant can deter your chances of meeting “the one.” You never know where or when you’re going to meet her so make yourself active.
2. Dress and look appropriate no matter where you go. Make sure that you look presentable when you meet “the one” because you really never know who that person is going to be. This doesn’t mean that you go all out metro sexual, if that isn’t your thing then keeping yourself clean and presentable will do.
3. Set your standards for who you want to be with for the rest of your life. Don’t set it too high because you’ve got your own shortcomings yourself.  Think of the qualities you’d want in her; looks-wise and personality wise.
4. Love and take care of yourself. Loving and taking care of yourself does not mean you are conceited. It means that you respect yourself and care about your well-being.
5. Take notice of the women around you—even the ones who you’ve known for a long time. Because it could be her! There are so many sides of a person that you have not seen yet and it’s worth a try. This is not to say that you should be attracted to every girl you know. If you’re attracted to a girl it doesn’t matter if you’ve known her for ten minutes or ten years! Get to know her more.
6. Do not try too hard. This is a classic case of the law of supply and demand. If you’re too enthusiastic and willing, women will get turned off by your seemingly desperate measures. Just be friendly. Whatever moves you have planned keep them subtle.
7. Concentrate on your career or whatever you’re good at. The man with the plan gets the girl. Someone who’s successful in their own right whether it be in skateboarding or as a doctor find it easier to attract someone of the opposite sex. Stability is a big turn on for girls.

Seven Ways to Stop Getting Your Heart Broken By a Douche

Don’t pay too much attention on what a boy says

Always remember that most boys will say absolutely anything to get into your pants. That means that there will be a few promises made that are meant to be broken. Know when they’re telling the truth. Just smile and decline offers. Don’t listen to everything he says, and pay more attention to how he acts.

1. Don’t give everything you’ve got all at once. If you really like this guy and want him to stay around longer then don’t give all of your goods in one go. This means that you should probably wait a few days before kissing him and a few weeks or months before having sex.
2. Don’t invest too much emotion early in the game. This is the surefire way to get your heart broken. It’s really too early to say if you’ll be together forever so try not to love him with all of your heart, especially if you haven’t reached the 3^rd date.
3. Listen to how he talks about other people– especially his ex. How he treats his ex is how he’s going to treat you. No ifs and buts about it. He may have changed for you but don’t be surprised if he does anything that makes you doubt his character
4. Have more realistic standards. We all want someone who’s tall, smart, handsome and funny but the truth is, we’re already lucky enough to find two of these traits in one guy. Lowering your standards doesn’t mean settling, it means accepting that your guy is not perfect. Realizing that he’s not perfect will also make you more forgiving of future flaws and will let the relationship last longer.
5. Do not look  for him to complete you. Don’t ever think that your life will not be complete without a significant other. Your life is already complete. Having a boyfriend is just an added bonus. When that boyfriend is taken away you should still be happy and be able to function well in life.
6. Be genuine friends first. A good relationship always has a strong foundation.

Seven Ways to Prevent Unnecessary Heartbreak

1. Collect and select—discreetly

One of the biggest injustices in life is that girls can have many suitors while boys can only court one girl at a time. But there’s a loophole in the deal: you can get to know a girl without proclaiming your undying love for her. Just be friendly and know whether or not you can be with this girl. Go out on friendly dates. Don’t be tied down to one girl immediately.

1. 2. Do not settle for a girl just because she’s the only one who responds to your advances

This is a relationship that is doomed to failure. If you settle for the first girl who responds to your advances then you’re drastically limiting your choices. If you’re not that attracted to her then you may want to keep looking.

1. 3. Do not settle with a girl just because she sleeps with you

This relationship will be fun at first but you’re soon going to realize how empty your relationship is, especially if you can’t stand her personality.

1. 4. Choose a girl who you’re comfortable with

Are you comfortable telling things to her? Would you be friends with her even if you weren’t attracted to her? If you answered yes to both of these questions then she may be the one for you. You’ll know when you’re comfortable with a girl when you’re not trying too hard. This is because she accepts you for who you are.

1. 5. Choose a girl who have the same values as you

If she’s not comfortable with having pre-marital sex and you are, then it’s obvious that you’ll clash somewhere in your relationship. Compromise is the key to these kinds of situations but if you’re not willing to do this then maybe she’s not the girl for you.

1. 6. Do not concentrate so much in a girl’s looks.

This seems like the hardest one on the list. But you’d be surprised that being attracted to a girl despite her physical flaws is quite common. The looks reel you in but it’s the personality that keeps you going.

1. 7. Choose a girl who shares your interests.

Common interest is the key to starting a great relationship. It’s what you’re going to talk about in the first few dates and it will keep you talking for longer than that.

Screw the Pick Up Line! Strike a Conversation!

Your dates, for some reason, always end in disaster. You’ve come home cursing your lack of flirting skills and below average social skills. You start to wonder if it was something you did.

Chances are it’s something you did and didn’t do! Flirting is a game you have to play and enjoy. And what you do is just as important as what you don’t do. Some people know the rules by instinct, others had to learn it. It’s never too late to learn how to flirt even if you’re social abilities have been likened to an asexual flower.

A common mistake that guys do when picking up girls is using a pick up line. When, in the history of dating, has pick up lines ever work? Unless you’re trying to be funny or you’re just that outrageously good looking that women would forgive your lapse in judgment then you’d better ditch the cheese. Yes, she’s probably heard that before.

What you need to do instead is to strike up a conversation. You can talk about anything around you. For instance you noticed that she ordered a drink. Ask her if it’s any good. When you can’t think of anything to say, look around you. Think: who, what, when, where and how; current events, famous personalities a good movie anything that can start a conversation. From there you can keep the conversation going. Remember not to try to hard though. Try to avoid awkward silences but don’t keep babbling either. Learn to read body language in order to make sure that she’s still interested. Show that you’re interested in her with your body language but don’t say anything explicitly yet. Striking up the balance between the two is the tricky bit.

Learn to know when a woman is not interested. Learn to take rejection well. Although your goal is to get women to like you, you’re not going to attract everyone. You’ll be wasting your precious time and effort on a girl who is not into you when you can move on to the next equally beautiful or even more gorgeous girl.

Calm Down, Miss Independent

You don’t have a boyfriend. Even if you did have a boyfriend you know you won’t be able to keep him for long. You don’t understand why. You’re an independent woman. You take care of yourself; you don’t take let anyone step on your dignity. And yet for some reason, men seem to be avoiding the plague.

It’s not you, it’s them. No really, it is. They’re intimidated by you. And who wouldn’t be? You’re smart, beautiful and you can take care of yourself. You don’t need anyone and you certainly don’t need a man in your life to complete you, so where does that leave him in your life? He’s afraid that he’ll never be good enough for you so he decides to go for another girl instead.

They can’t help it though. They’re wired that way. Men see themselves as providers. They think that they are supposed to be the strong ones in a relationship. When you exude an aura of omnipotence you’ll scare the living daylights out of an average male. You may think that they’re insecure and you’re probably right but if you want to find a stable, loving boyfriend you’re going to have to lower your roar, lioness.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll purposely demean your achievements or make yourself less independent. It most certainly does not mean making yourself sound ditzy or dumb. You’re more than that! This just means that despite your achievements and despite your amazing-ness, you are still approachable. Don’t scare off a guy by making him feel that if he screws up he’s going to be dead meat. Let him feel like he is an important part of your life. Let him feel important by allowing him to provide for you and protect you. Let him be the man in your relationship. Give him equal importance. Show him that you care for him and that you’ll let him care for you.

When a guy approaches you for the first time don’t pounce on him lioness. Give him a chance. Converse with him but don’t try too hard. Just smile and be approaching.

Tips For Dealing With Younger Girl..

Well I guess my game has improved some I am 29 talking to a
28 year old and a girl that is 21. I tell you I dont believe a
guy should date just one women at a time. A man needs choices
more choices leads to more empowerment.

Regardless, the 28 year old I am about to sleep with.
Hope to seal the deal tonight or over the weekend.

The 21-year old I find myself much more attracted to
not only physically but as a person and character wise.
I am ready to take it to the next level. I admit I like younger
women. Anyways, the one objective I face is our age difference.

I thought about creating an nlp pattern to attempt to run on her if
this objective is brought up.
I have an idea on it.

Secondly, I havent ran incredible connection
because I wonder about attempting to elicit a state which she may
have never experienced.

Some Insight About My Dating Game

I’m realizing that my rapport skills kick ass. I have nothing to worry about
there. The area of my game that needs all the work is in attraction.

Here are my thoughts on rapport though. It is to do with being at ease – if
the other person is not at ease with your presence (they are tense), you do
not let this make you ill-at-ease or tense. Instead you just remain totally
comfortable. You communicate that you are comfortable in their presence by
just being comfortable.

I’m good at this. I have good self control when it comes to this particular
ability. This last girl today was like a block of ice, but I just sat there
and had the vibe that she is my best friend. I sometimes would look away at
something in the distance while I was talking, like you do when you are
talking to your friend, you don’t eyeball them all the time. Slowly they
begin to get in sync with you and become at ease, then you have rapport.

It is like slowly melting a block of ice by radiating a gentle warm glow.
This is why there is also this thing of them feeling “cold” or “warm”. Some
people are really cold, so you want your relaxed glow to warm them up.

I cannot imagine that any person who you do this with would not appreciate
it, even subconsciously. It’s my belief that everyone wants to connect, on
some level.

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