How to Choose the Right Guy for You

Emotions play a big part in a girl’s decision to choose a guy. A girl is usually attracted to boys who make them feel special. But almost every boy knows that this is what a girl looks for so they try to emulate this when they are courting you. Before you let your heart out of its cage and make a bad decision you must be able to detect which boy is genuine and which isn’t. While we can’t really do the deciding for you, here is a list of things you should take into consideration when choosing:

1. 1. Choose a boy who loves you as much as or more than you love him.

If you love him more than he loves you, you’ll be devastated when he leaves you. If he loves you more you’re sure he’ll never leave you—and even if he does you won’t be heartbroken.

1. 2. Choose a guy who’s not only there for sex.

How can you tell? Don’t sleep with him. If he stays despite that then you know he truly loves you.

1. 3. Choose a guy who’s emotionally stable

Because misery loves company he’ll most likely pull you down with him. Choose a person who is emotionally stable enough to carry his own weight. A person who’s insecure will constantly try to outdo you and try to make you feel insecure as well. You don’t need this in life.

1. 4. Choose a guy who’s financially stable

He doesn’t have to be rich; he just has to be able to take care of himself. By being able to take care of himself in all aspects of his life he shows that he is ready to take care of another person—you.

1. 5. Choose a guy who would choose you over anyone else

Make sure that you’re the person he really wants to be with.

1. 6. Avoid the possessive types

Sure it’s cute at first, but after a while, you’ll start to see that it’s becoming abusive. Telling you you’re his is romantic, but not allowing you to go out with friends is a totally different story.

1. 7. Verbal abuse is still abuse. Learn to spot it early

There is a difference between being tactless and verbally abusing your partner. Learn to know the difference

Meeting Men Everywhere

All around us, there seems to be more and more tangible proof that women outnumber men. Almost everywhere we go, we are confronted by the fact that there are more women than men. But not to worry, this does not necessarily mean that meeting men is a difficult feat. The worst mistake women nowadays could make in meeting men is thinking that it is so difficult. This thought creates so much unnecessary pressure and takes the fun out of it. Meeting men should be looked at as an adventure, an unplanned adventure that will end in a pleasant surprise. Don’t think too much of it, meeting men is one of those tasks that are easier when you just wing it.

Every time you go somewhere is an opportunity to meet a new guy. It doesn’t matter if you’re at the grocery store or at a fabulous bar. Think about going anywhere as an open invitation to make new friends. When you think about it this way, you start to make changes in yourself that will ultimately help you meet new people or men, particularly, without you even knowing it. When you’re about to meet someone new, you dress up, you prepare yourself and equip yourself with the right things to make you ready to give a good first impression.

The key to meeting new guys is always giving off good vibes. Nobody wants make friends with the Grinch right? Try to always look friendly and amiable. Find something to smile about, but do it naturally.  When you look blooming and approachable, it eliminates the only barrier there is in meeting new people. The only thing keeping the guy next to you on the grocery stand is his fear of being shut down or embarrassed. If you make him feel like you’re a nice person, he would totally be there in a heartbeat.

What you need to do is to make yourself available for opportunities in meeting new people, and always be prepared to make a good impression. Put a little lip gloss on even if you’re just taking out the trash, or try to wear cute outfits even if you’re just going to the gym.

Lastly, do not limit yourself. Keep on trying new things, go to places you’ve never been before and prepare yourself to be pleasantly surprised.

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part V – How to Keep Your Relationship Strong

So you are finally done with the whole getting-to-know-you stage. At this point, you do not have to snag him anymore simply because he is officially yours. You are now a couple! Now you can finally rest and be contented with the outcome of your efforts.

But here is the thing though, are you really supposed to just rest and bask in your glory so to speak?

Of course not! This is because having a relationship with Mr. Hottie (whom I think we should now call Mr. Right) is just the start. You have to continually work for your relationship to be successful. And your work starts with understanding who he is as a person.

See, when you are already with him, that is when you will be given the chance to see and discover some aspects of his personality that you may have never noticed before. Be warned that most likely, you would not love every new discovery. But then again, you cannot really dump him just because he farts too much or he barfs a lot right? Instead, you must learn how to tolerate these little things. After all, you have to remember that you are also not perfect at all. So who knows, he may also see a lot of things that he has to tolerate about you.

Also, now that you are both in the next level, try to open up your line of communication to your partner. If you can, try to avoid keeping secrets from him that can potentially destroy your relationship. So if you feel that he has to know something about you, then let him know. Be reminded that only when you are honest to him can you expect him to be honest to you.

Lastly, no matter how much you love being with him and seeing him all the time, try to still live your life as an individual. Keep spending time with your friends and try to develop a new hobby if you want to. This part is important because when you both keep on developing individually, you get to be more mature on your disposition in life and love.

And that ladies conclude the series on “Getting Mr. Hottie”. Hope you guys learned a lot and good luck!

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part IV – Creative Ways to Tell Him You Love Him

After observing him for a couple of weeks, you are finally convinced that he loves you. Yes, he has not really told you yet but you really care less. As long as he shows you how he feels towards you, then you are fine.

Now, your plan of telling him how you feel is in the picture again. But because you want it to be really special, you want to stay away from the usual scene where you just blurt it out. Thing is, because you are not exactly “creative” you seem to be running out of ideas. But just like before, you should not panic because if ideas are what you need then I think that I can help you with that.

So without further delay, here are simple but creative ways how you can tell him the three words.

1. Write and mail him a letter. Yes, you read that right. Mail – as in the old fashioned way. Telling him how you feel through and SMS or an email is just not romantic at all and it does not seem like you even spent any effort.
2. If writing on paper is not that impressive to you, then write where he least expects you to – like his bathroom mirror perhaps. Just take bath soap and use that as a writing material instead of a pen.
3. Say it with music. Compile a CD of your favorite songs and somewhere within the tracks, record your voice as you confess to him how much he means to you. Then give the CD to him and ask him to listen to it before he sleeps.
4. Take him out to dinner. As in surprise him by volunteering to fetch him and paying for the bill. And some time during your dinner, hold his hand and tell him what you have to say.

Those are 4 simple but creative things that you can do to let him know that you care for him. Of course you do not have to follow those tips to the last detail.

If you want you can tweak them a bit to make them seem more you than me.

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part III – How to Know If He Loves You

So you two have been dating for a few months now. As you get to know him, you find that “Mr. Hottie” is not just hot. He is also thoughtful, caring, responsible and every wonderful adjective that you can think of. And because of that, you found yourself falling for him fast.

Now you want to tell him about your feelings but the scared little girl inside you is screaming “Not yet! Wait till he tells you first!”

Yes, unfortunately he has not told you the three precious words yet. But you should not feel bad because some guys do have a problem in expressing how they feel. So sometimes, what they cannot say, they show. To you this means, instead of waiting and waiting for him to say it, just watch his actions to see if he is in to you.

How exactly would you know?

Well, here are some telltale signs.

1. When you meet, he does not just yap about himself, his terrible day at work and his family life. Instead he asks you how have you been doing and he is interested with what you have done since you’ve seen him last.
2. He listens when you tell him something important. In fact, he listens to you so much that he knows your friends and family even if he has not really seen them yet.
3. He is willing to give in to your little whims. He does your errands for you if you are feeling a little lazy and when you eat at home, he volunteers to do the dishes with you.
4. He tells you that you are beautiful even if you are having the worst of your bad hair days, even if your eyes are puffy from lack of sleep and even when zits are coming out of your face.
5. He tells you off when you are doing something bad. That means that he does not like you to go astray when you are with him. And finally…
6. He just cannot stop touching and holding you. After you make love, he stays to keep you close as you guys fall asleep.

Now when you see those signs, do not doubt anymore because pretty sure he is in love with you.

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part II – How to Survive Your First Date with Him

So after a few more encounters, you finally got “The Invite” that you were waiting for. He asked you out for dinner!

Psyched about it, you are practically wracking your brain on what you should and should not do on your date. You do not want to screw it up so right now, you are basically open to any inputs.

And if you want inputs, then I will give you just that. Here are some tips that I can share you.

1. Do not over think about the dress that you are about to wear. Just be safe with your choice. Do not wear something too dressy and avoid going dressed down as well. This way he would feel comfortable taking you anywhere be it a fine dining restaurant or a casual dining establishment.
2. Engage him in an easy going conversation. This will be the best way for you to gauge how comfortable he is with you. And as you talk, just let him dictate the pace and listen. Do not rush him to open up. He will talk once he is ready.
3. And again, be yourself. Do not pretend to be someone you’re not. Keep in mind that he asked “you” for a date and not some perfect little Barbie Doll. So just go ahead and talk the way you would if you are talking to your friends. Doing this will give you a more “natural” aura and believe it or not, that will help him cozy up to you.
4. Do not be that overly proud girl who would offer to pay her part of the bill on the first date. I mean that is just rude and kind of insulting to your beau. Now if you are not someone who is comfortable with having someone pay for you all the time, then maybe offer to go Dutch during your 3^rd or 4^th date. At that point, offering to pay for yourself may even give you a plus point because that signifies that you can take care of yourself.

Those are the things that you must and must not do during your first date with him. Hopefully knowing this helped you relax a bit and your anticipation to get together with him more anxious.

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part I – How to Get His Attention

You have seen him two or three times hanging out at your favorite bar.

Ever since you had your eyes on him, you cannot help but throw side glances at him. And why the hell not? He is just so gorgeous! Yet you sigh, knowing that you can never have your hands on that fine gentleman.

But hey, do not give up yet. As long as “Mr. Hottie” does not have a ring on his finger then you have a chance. So knock the shy girl out of your system and make your move.

Now the question is, what exactly can you do to get him to notice you?

Given the fact that you only encounter each other in a bar, you have to make it a point that you stand out a bit. Note, however, that “standing out” does not have to translate to dressing in a super tight blouse and a very short skirt.

That outfit may catch his eye for a short while but some men are simply not interested with women who dress like that. They fantasize about them yes, but they are not exactly the type of women they would want to take home and introduce to their mother.

So instead, just maybe try to dress up a little bit. If you are a woman who likes wearing black when going to the bar, just bring some colors to your wardrobe. Add a touch of red – men always find that color sexy.

Once you get his attention and you notice him looking at you, do not play coy by looking away. Just smile and say hi. Who knows, after that smile you might be getting a drink coming from him anytime soon. And if he did send you a drink, have the courtesy to walk over to him and say thank you. After that have a casual talk with him, find out what his interests are and let him know yours.

Oh and do not attempt to linger because that makes you look a little desperate. Give him a firm hand shake, throw him your best smile and tell him you loved meeting him and move on. You will know that you got his interest when he approaches you the next time you see each other again.

Now if your first attempt did not work, do not fret because pretty sure, you will still get another shot at it.

Get Yourself a Guy, Boyfriend 101

Around 6 out 10 women today are single, unattached, or have “it’s complicated” as their relationship status in the major social online networks. Are you tired of being single? Are you itching to change that relationship status and do you want to have a regular date to the movies? All women do, and it’s about time you do something about it.

Get a boyfriend now. Make yourself open and available for a relationship. First, be ready for a commitment. Most women nowadays have commitment issues. Before you go out there and get a boyfriend, ask yourself twice if you are ready for all the complications it brings with it. Relationships should not be seen as strapping yourself down or locking a ball and chain on your ankle. IT is simply a matter of finding the right person.

Do not be too choosy but never settle easily. To make sure that you get the boyfriend who is right for you, know what you want, what you expect and what you are willing to give. Think about the qualities you are looking for in a boyfriend and make sure they are realistic and reasonable ones. Be sure as well that you are ready to give as much as you intend to get from this relationship.

The next step is to find the lucky guy. This is where most women get stuck. It’s actually a lot simpler than is seems. You just need to open yourself up to opportunities and the possibility of love. Be open to going to new places, meeting new people and getting to know others more. These are the three things you need to do in order to get yourself a boyfriend. Do not plan too far ahead when it comes to relationships; just let nature and fate run their normal course. Getting a boyfriend is one thing that cannot be forced. Just let it flow naturally.

Your job is to put yourself out there. Be available. Do not cram your calendar with work and other obligations, make time for yourself and work on your personal relationships. Getting a boyfriend is not an automatic process, it takes times and energy but it is fun. After all, it takes a few errors in trial to come up with the perfect match.