First you have to look perfect yet vulnerable. You have to look just right. You have to look fun yet not too fun. Do not exaggerate anything, in this sense, the golden mean is applicable. Looking overly done turns men off. You have to look like you did not put too much effort into how you look, in a way even the way you put make up on must seem natural. You have to look like you have a brain too and that you did not spend the whole day in front of the mirror. The different los you have on may send different messages, for example, showing too much skin would make you seem like you’re easy, or wearing too much make up might say you’re trying too hard. Find a sweet spot between all dolled up and totally bare. In addition, you have to look vulnerable. A strong woman may be admirable and impressive, but a woman too strong may also be looked at as intimidating, hence might scare men off. Men like being needed, it helps massage their ego. Be careful that you don’t come off too strong.

Secondly, remember to keep a little mystery. As much as men would like to think that they are all alpha dogs, there is always a curious cat in all of them. Nothing excites men more than a little mystery.  You have to let them know enough to engage them in the hunt, but leave as much to the imagination as you can. Let them go crazy trying to figure you out. This mystery paves the way for that magical moment when he finds out something about you or sees it in you and knocks his socks off.

The complicated part, however, is creating that spark when she sees you. We can only hope that attracting women is as simple as rubbing two stones together to make that spark. But sadly, it’s a lot harder than that. But thankfully, after much research and personal experience, we have figured out a few tips to help the lost bachelor along.

The first rule in attraction for women is never to try too hard. Women are automatically turned off at the sight of a guy who is trying too hard. Not only will you look like a joke, she would also forever associate you as that guy about whom nothing is impressive. The trick is acting naturally. Not only will you be more convincing, but you’ll also be more comfortable. Most men try to impress the woman with money, or with resumes or with power, but the unwritten rule is that, if you really have it, you don’t have to spell it out. It’s always much more impressive when you find out something truly impressive about a person out of nowhere. When you count your good points off your fingertips, it would only make you seem arrogant.

The second thing you need to remember is, be cool. Not in the sense of trying to look cool as that would be in direct contradiction to our first rule. Being cool here means don’t be too giddy. Don’t try to lock things down right after introducing yourself. At the end of the conversation, never ask “when will I see you again, never attempt to get a commitment when it’s not established that you’re entitled to one. Never sound as if you think the girl likes you enough to see you again. Just be cool about it.

Follow these two simple steps and your sure to get a third step closer.