Calm Down, Miss Independent

You don’t have a boyfriend. Even if you did have a boyfriend you know you won’t be able to keep him for long. You don’t understand why. You’re an independent woman. You take care of yourself; you don’t take let anyone step on your dignity. And yet for some reason, men seem to be avoiding the plague.

It’s not you, it’s them. No really, it is. They’re intimidated by you. And who wouldn’t be? You’re smart, beautiful and you can take care of yourself. You don’t need anyone and you certainly don’t need a man in your life to complete you, so where does that leave him in your life? He’s afraid that he’ll never be good enough for you so he decides to go for another girl instead.

They can’t help it though. They’re wired that way. Men see themselves as providers. They think that they are supposed to be the strong ones in a relationship. When you exude an aura of omnipotence you’ll scare the living daylights out of an average male. You may think that they’re insecure and you’re probably right but if you want to find a stable, loving boyfriend you’re going to have to lower your roar, lioness.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll purposely demean your achievements or make yourself less independent. It most certainly does not mean making yourself sound ditzy or dumb. You’re more than that! This just means that despite your achievements and despite your amazing-ness, you are still approachable. Don’t scare off a guy by making him feel that if he screws up he’s going to be dead meat. Let him feel like he is an important part of your life. Let him feel important by allowing him to provide for you and protect you. Let him be the man in your relationship. Give him equal importance. Show him that you care for him and that you’ll let him care for you.

When a guy approaches you for the first time don’t pounce on him lioness. Give him a chance. Converse with him but don’t try too hard. Just smile and be approaching.