How to Choose the Right Guy for You

Emotions play a big part in a girl’s decision to choose a guy. A girl is usually attracted to boys who make them feel special. But almost every boy knows that this is what a girl looks for so they try to emulate this when they are courting you. Before you let your heart out of its cage and make a bad decision you must be able to detect which boy is genuine and which isn’t. While we can’t really do the deciding for you, here is a list of things you should take into consideration when choosing:

1. 1. Choose a boy who loves you as much as or more than you love him.

If you love him more than he loves you, you’ll be devastated when he leaves you. If he loves you more you’re sure he’ll never leave you—and even if he does you won’t be heartbroken.

1. 2. Choose a guy who’s not only there for sex.

How can you tell? Don’t sleep with him. If he stays despite that then you know he truly loves you.

1. 3. Choose a guy who’s emotionally stable

Because misery loves company he’ll most likely pull you down with him. Choose a person who is emotionally stable enough to carry his own weight. A person who’s insecure will constantly try to outdo you and try to make you feel insecure as well. You don’t need this in life.

1. 4. Choose a guy who’s financially stable

He doesn’t have to be rich; he just has to be able to take care of himself. By being able to take care of himself in all aspects of his life he shows that he is ready to take care of another person—you.

1. 5. Choose a guy who would choose you over anyone else

Make sure that you’re the person he really wants to be with.

1. 6. Avoid the possessive types

Sure it’s cute at first, but after a while, you’ll start to see that it’s becoming abusive. Telling you you’re his is romantic, but not allowing you to go out with friends is a totally different story.

1. 7. Verbal abuse is still abuse. Learn to spot it early

There is a difference between being tactless and verbally abusing your partner. Learn to know the difference

How to Woo a Girl into Becoming Your Girlfriend

1. Be a good conversationalist. Charm is everything. You should be able to go with the flow of a conversation. Learn what to say and how to say it. Never argue about sensitive issues and be sure to talk about common interests. The best way to be a good conversationalist—look her in the eye, shut up and listen
2. Be her friend. Do not pretend to be her friend just to get into her pants. Genuinely get to know the person you are attracted to. This will be a true test on whether or no t you two are compatible.
3. Know how to read and use body language. Around sixty percent of a conversation is based on body language. A nice tip is to imitate how your muse is currently posed. It creates an illusion that the two of you are alike and increases the attraction.
4. Compliment her indirectly. This is probably more effective then the direct approach. How would you compliment someone indirectly? Comment on a trait or quality that you admire about the other person or thing then casually relate it to her. This will get her thinking on what you mean by your offhanded remarks.
5. Give high regard for her opinion. Ask her what she thinks about things. But never agree to disagree. There is a fine line between keeping the peace and being spineless. Do not sound arrogant while stating your opinion and do not try to make her agree with yours. Respect is the key. Don’t just apply this to your girl but to others as well.
6. Feign disinterest. This is the tricky bit. You have to show little hints of being attracted to her and not being attracted to her at the same time. This is very tricky and too much of one or the other can give you away. It’s best to keep yourself ambiguous and not give a straight answer if ever asked.
7. Show her that you are serious about her when taking your relationship to the next level. Show her that she is more special then any other girl you’ve been with before. Your seriousness at this stage will determine whether or not you will push through with your relationship.

How to Recover From a Breakup

Break-ups are never easy, especially if you’ve invested a whole lot of feelings on the guy. When you’re in this kind of situation you have to be easy on yourself. Try not to be too sad for long though. You have a life! Here are some ideas on how to get over a guy and how to mend your broken heart.

1. Broken hearts are usually a feeling of loss and betrayal. This just means that the person you thought he was isn’t the person he really is. This person is not worth any tears so it’s best to just leave him.
2. When you’re out of a relationship be thankful for the good times and be thankful that it’s over. Thank God you’re not with that loser anymore.
3. Remember the gross stuff about the guy and be thankful that you two are through. Think about his blackheads, body odor and his dandruff. Thank God you didn’t end up with him.
4. Leaving him opens the doors to a new relationship. How do you expect to meet “the one” if you’re still crying over your ex? Breaking up was the best thing for you because now you’re free to date better people.
5. Remember that there was a time when you’ve lived without him. And you weren’t heartbroken then. So don’t be heartbroken now.
6. Do not carry the sadness and bitterness for long. This will prolong your broken heart and make you not appreciate the finer things in life. Use this as an opportunity to grow, not to be beaten.
7. Instead of being spiteful focus your energy on other things. You’ve got so much love to give. Give it to someone who will appreciate and nurture it. Volunteer to help other people and focus your love there.
8. You just think that he’s the one but he’s not. There is someone out there for you but you haven’t met him yet. You’re sitting around moping about a guy when you could be having fun while waiting for the one.  Don’t be sad about him. He’s not worth your time anyway.

How to Compromise in a Relationship and Prevent a Breakup

1. Remember that you two are of equal worth. Although you value her as your lover and your friend, remember that you too deserve the same love and attention that you give to her. Let her know through your actions that you aren’t her servant boy.
2. Learn how far your power goes into a relationship. She cheated on you. You blame it on yourself because you had a fight yesterday. Screw that. That doesn’t give her license to do what she did. Don’t blame yourself when your partner acts up. She has control over her actions not you.
3. Do not try to change yourself for her. It really depends on what you want to change. If it’s a bad quality or a destructive habit, then change it. But if it’s something as trivial as how you dress and carry yourself, then draw the line. She should accept you for who you are.
4. Do not try to change her.What you see is what you get. This is why the selection process is of utmost importance. If she cheated on her previous boyfriend, she’s likely to doing it again so choose very wisely.
5. Forgive her for her faults. Everyone makes mistakes once in a while. Depending on what she did, you should learn to forgive her. You’re bound to screw up too so look the other way even if it’s just this once.
6. Remember the important dates of your life. Birthdays and anniversaries are a given, but you get extra points if you remember trivial things like your first kiss or your first date. Don’t be too sentimental though. Depending on how your girlfriend is like, she may or may not appreciate you remembering every single detail.
7. Allow each other some personal space. Just because you are together doesn’t mean you have to know every little detail about her life. You need your privacy and she does too.
8. Never stop flirting. Flirting keeps the romance hot. If you think you can stop flirting just because you’re already a couple, it doesn’t mean you can put your guard down. Make your romance as fun as it was when you were first starting out.

How to Be Your Own Woman While In a Relationship

1. Be active in other areas of life.Don’t exhaust all your energy in your love life. You have your career, family and friends to think about. Try to give equal importance to everything you have in life. If you center your activities on one person and that person leaves, you will inevitably get burned out.
2. Love yourself more. You are the most important thing in your life. It is you and not some guy. Remember that when a guy does something bad to break your heart always remember that he’s not worth all the trouble of being sad for.
3. Focus on your career or whatever you’re good at. You are not a woman defined by your man. You are a woman with your own thing going on. You love and support each other in whatever you do. Being your own woman makes you even more attractive to the opposite sex.
4. Have your own life. Don’t always be available on his every whim. Let him miss you once in a while. If you’re always there then the spiciness of a romance can easily wane. But don’t be gone for too long lest he starts looking around.
5. Do not place your happiness on a single person. If he’s mad, you’re sad. If he’s happy, you’re happy. This isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship. Giving him total control of your emotions will make you an emotional wreck. Remember that happiness should come from you and not from anywhere or anyone else.
6. Learn to differentiate dependence from love. There is a big difference between love and dependence. Love is an action. Love is caring and giving. Dependence is needing and wanting. Do not go for a guy who needs you but abuses you. Dependent relationships are unhealthy relationships.
7. If you think that you are a dependent person then you should get out of relationships for a while. Dependency will only cause further heartbreaks in the long run. Dependent people are usually those who cannot last long without being in a relationship. Women in these situations should learn to live on their own and find themselves.  It’s better to suffer now then to suffer again and again.

How to Meet the Girl of Your Dreams

1. Go out more often. How do you expect to meet the woman of your dreams if you’re always at home playing with your Xbox? Keeping yourself stagnant can deter your chances of meeting “the one.” You never know where or when you’re going to meet her so make yourself active.
2. Dress and look appropriate no matter where you go. Make sure that you look presentable when you meet “the one” because you really never know who that person is going to be. This doesn’t mean that you go all out metro sexual, if that isn’t your thing then keeping yourself clean and presentable will do.
3. Set your standards for who you want to be with for the rest of your life. Don’t set it too high because you’ve got your own shortcomings yourself.  Think of the qualities you’d want in her; looks-wise and personality wise.
4. Love and take care of yourself. Loving and taking care of yourself does not mean you are conceited. It means that you respect yourself and care about your well-being.
5. Take notice of the women around you—even the ones who you’ve known for a long time. Because it could be her! There are so many sides of a person that you have not seen yet and it’s worth a try. This is not to say that you should be attracted to every girl you know. If you’re attracted to a girl it doesn’t matter if you’ve known her for ten minutes or ten years! Get to know her more.
6. Do not try too hard. This is a classic case of the law of supply and demand. If you’re too enthusiastic and willing, women will get turned off by your seemingly desperate measures. Just be friendly. Whatever moves you have planned keep them subtle.
7. Concentrate on your career or whatever you’re good at. The man with the plan gets the girl. Someone who’s successful in their own right whether it be in skateboarding or as a doctor find it easier to attract someone of the opposite sex. Stability is a big turn on for girls.

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