A Womanly Confidence

Confidence is one of the best turn-ons for men. Most of them factor it in how sexy a woman is. This is one of the things every women need to exude in everything she does. Unfortunately, it’s a hard thing to do for many girls out there. This is because self doubt and insecurity is such rampant condition among the women of today.

Women tend to compare themselves to perfectly airbrushed super models. This little activity almost always ends up with the woman finding herself inadequate. Confidence suffers from major blows daily especially with the prevailing culture of obsession and fixation on perfection. What most women do not understand is that nobody is as perfect as the cover of Cosmopolitan Magazine, not even the cover page model herself. And besides, the cliché “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, is as true as it is old.

Each woman has her own brand of beauty so there is no use comparing yourself with anybody else. Confidence comes with the understanding that you are beautiful in your own way. When you’re feeling insecure, it shows in your every action. There’s no way you can effectively fake confidence, because insecurity shows in your actions. When you feel inadequate, take a look at yourself in the mirror and find something about yourself that you like. Find your assets and play them up. These little things that make you feel good about yourself bring you closer to exuding that magnetic confidence that makes men swoon.

As much and as often as possible, enhance your assets. This not only makes you look more beautiful but it also boosts your confidence. Knowing that your best feature is highlighted, it makes you feel confident with the way you look.

A word to the wise however, you must never seem overconfident, bordering on arrogant. Men like to see a little vulnerability in a woman because it makes them all the more manly. Arrogance or overconfidence sometimes come off as snobbish and thwarts whatever good thing you might have had going on. Be the right amount of confident always.

Attraction in Men

Attracting men is like a craft all on its own. It sometimes happens spontaneously but more often than not, you really have to put effort into it, hence the immortalized cliché:”put out”. But the good thing about it, it’s not like a first impression. You get as many chances as the number of time he sees you. You can be friends with one guy since childhood and then one day, out of nowhere, he falls in love with you. It takes on moment to go from one of the boys to the girl he picks over the boys. Even if you’ve known him for years or have only just met him at a bar, it takes the same moment to make him see you as his next girlfriend. Like I said, it takes one moment. What you need to know is how to orchestrate that moment: how to make that moment happen.

First you have to look perfect yet vulnerable. You have to look just right. You have to look fun yet not too fun. Do not exaggerate anything, in this sense, the golden mean is applicable. Looking overly done turns men off. You have to look like you did not put too much effort into how you look, in a way even the way you put make up on must seem natural. You have to look like you have a brain too and that you did not spend the whole day in front of the mirror. The different los you have on may send different messages, for example, showing too much skin would make you seem like you’re easy, or wearing too much make up might say you’re trying too hard. Find a sweet spot between all dolled up and totally bare. In addition, you have to look vulnerable. A strong woman may be admirable and impressive, but a woman too strong may also be looked at as intimidating, hence might scare men off. Men like being needed, it helps massage their ego. Be careful that you don’t come off too strong.

Secondly, remember to keep a little mystery. As much as men would like to think that they are all alpha dogs, there is always a curious cat in all of them. Nothing excites men more than a little mystery.  You have to let them know enough to engage them in the hunt, but leave as much to the imagination as you can. Let them go crazy trying to figure you out. This mystery paves the way for that magical moment when he finds out something about you or sees it in you and knocks his socks off.

The Simple Yet Complicated Attraction in Women

Attraction in women is both simple and complicated. It is simple in the sense that it is automatic. When a woman finds that she is attracted to a guy, it’s locked down and irreversible. When you catch a woman’s eye and she sees something she pleases, it’s safe to say that she’s hooked. This is because women look for the metaphorical “spark.” This spark is the ever so evasive concept that makes her swoon, that makes her heart do somersaults over the butterflies in her stomach. Attraction for women is instantaneous and almost like spontaneous combustion.

The complicated part, however, is creating that spark when she sees you. We can only hope that attracting women is as simple as rubbing two stones together to make that spark. But sadly, it’s a lot harder than that. But thankfully, after much research and personal experience, we have figured out a few tips to help the lost bachelor along.

The first rule in attraction for women is never to try too hard. Women are automatically turned off at the sight of a guy who is trying too hard. Not only will you look like a joke, she would also forever associate you as that guy about whom nothing is impressive. The trick is acting naturally. Not only will you be more convincing, but you’ll also be more comfortable. Most men try to impress the woman with money, or with resumes or with power, but the unwritten rule is that, if you really have it, you don’t have to spell it out. It’s always much more impressive when you find out something truly impressive about a person out of nowhere. When you count your good points off your fingertips, it would only make you seem arrogant.

The second thing you need to remember is, be cool. Not in the sense of trying to look cool as that would be in direct contradiction to our first rule. Being cool here means don’t be too giddy. Don’t try to lock things down right after introducing yourself. At the end of the conversation, never ask “when will I see you again, never attempt to get a commitment when it’s not established that you’re entitled to one. Never sound as if you think the girl likes you enough to see you again. Just be cool about it.

Follow these two simple steps and your sure to get a third step closer.

Catching Your Dream Girl Part V – How to Build and Maintain A Strong Relationship

Finally, you have moved on from the “dating” stage to the “relationship” stage. And right now, you are loving the transition. Come to think of it, why will you not be happy? You love her and she loves you. Nothing can be more perfect and blissful than that.

But hey, not to burst your bubble or anything, I just want to remind you happiness is not all there is in relationships. There will be some instances where you and your “Dream Girl” will be engaged in a fight and faced with several challenges that can potentially destroy what you have. As such, it will be important for you and her as well to be prepared in facing these challenges by making your relationship stronger.

Question is, what exactly can you do to build a strong relationship with your girl?

Here are the answers to your question.

1. Strive hard to establish and maintain trust in between you two. You can do this by remaining faithful and refraining from lying to each other. Now that alone sounds pretty tough right? The funny thing is while trust remains to be one of the things that are tough to build, it also happens to be the easiest to shatter. So before committing in a relationship, make sure you can restrain yourself from the temptation of cheating and lying to your partner.
2. Respect each other’s space. Just because you are a couple that does not mean that you have to be literally together all the time right? Sometimes, it is best for you to spend a little away time from each other just so you both can grow and mature individually.
3. Fight if you must fight. You need to do this to release all the negative emotions inside you. But when you fight, make sure that you compromise with each other and that you patch things up before you sleep. This is important because you should not let your arguments create a gap in between you two.
4. Finally, communicate with each other. This is something that you will need to do because it will help you understand each other’s feelings without the guesswork.

Those are some of the answers that you may be looking for. At this point, everything may seem scary but if those things will eventually give you a happier and a more successful relationship, maybe they are definitely worth it.

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part V – How to Keep Your Relationship Strong

So you are finally done with the whole getting-to-know-you stage. At this point, you do not have to snag him anymore simply because he is officially yours. You are now a couple! Now you can finally rest and be contented with the outcome of your efforts.

But here is the thing though, are you really supposed to just rest and bask in your glory so to speak?

Of course not! This is because having a relationship with Mr. Hottie (whom I think we should now call Mr. Right) is just the start. You have to continually work for your relationship to be successful. And your work starts with understanding who he is as a person.

See, when you are already with him, that is when you will be given the chance to see and discover some aspects of his personality that you may have never noticed before. Be warned that most likely, you would not love every new discovery. But then again, you cannot really dump him just because he farts too much or he barfs a lot right? Instead, you must learn how to tolerate these little things. After all, you have to remember that you are also not perfect at all. So who knows, he may also see a lot of things that he has to tolerate about you.

Also, now that you are both in the next level, try to open up your line of communication to your partner. If you can, try to avoid keeping secrets from him that can potentially destroy your relationship. So if you feel that he has to know something about you, then let him know. Be reminded that only when you are honest to him can you expect him to be honest to you.

Lastly, no matter how much you love being with him and seeing him all the time, try to still live your life as an individual. Keep spending time with your friends and try to develop a new hobby if you want to. This part is important because when you both keep on developing individually, you get to be more mature on your disposition in life and love.

And that ladies conclude the series on “Getting Mr. Hottie”. Hope you guys learned a lot and good luck!

Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part IV – Creative Ways to Tell Him You Love Him

After observing him for a couple of weeks, you are finally convinced that he loves you. Yes, he has not really told you yet but you really care less. As long as he shows you how he feels towards you, then you are fine.

Now, your plan of telling him how you feel is in the picture again. But because you want it to be really special, you want to stay away from the usual scene where you just blurt it out. Thing is, because you are not exactly “creative” you seem to be running out of ideas. But just like before, you should not panic because if ideas are what you need then I think that I can help you with that.

So without further delay, here are simple but creative ways how you can tell him the three words.

1. Write and mail him a letter. Yes, you read that right. Mail – as in the old fashioned way. Telling him how you feel through and SMS or an email is just not romantic at all and it does not seem like you even spent any effort.
2. If writing on paper is not that impressive to you, then write where he least expects you to – like his bathroom mirror perhaps. Just take bath soap and use that as a writing material instead of a pen.
3. Say it with music. Compile a CD of your favorite songs and somewhere within the tracks, record your voice as you confess to him how much he means to you. Then give the CD to him and ask him to listen to it before he sleeps.
4. Take him out to dinner. As in surprise him by volunteering to fetch him and paying for the bill. And some time during your dinner, hold his hand and tell him what you have to say.

Those are 4 simple but creative things that you can do to let him know that you care for him. Of course you do not have to follow those tips to the last detail.

If you want you can tweak them a bit to make them seem more you than me.

Catching Your Dream Girl Part IV – Special Ways How You Can Say “I Love You”

After much thought, you have finally decided to get in a real relationship with her. But in order to mark the day when you will finally become a couple, you want to do something for her, say “I Love You” in a different but special way.

Now to help you to do just that, here are some ideas that you can perhaps work on.

1. Send her some flowers. No, do not just send her a single bulk of her favorite blooms. Instead ask your florist to send her a bouquet every single hour. On each bouquet, write down a word from your message and keep the flowers coming in until you finally complete what it is that you are trying to say.The message can be anything from a simple “I Love You” to the more romantic “I Love You Jane. Will you be my girl?” It is really up to you, just be creative.
2. Go to a print shop and ask them to make a small tarpaulin for you that contains a similar message to the one written above. Then surprise her by posting that tarp on her door. After that, hide and wait for her until she gets home and sees your message. If you see that she is pleased, do a follow up by showing yourself and handing her flowers.
3. If you are someone who can really pull some strings, then take her to a concert or performance of your favorite band or singer. Request them to sing your song and ask them to dedicate it to her. After the song, hold her hand and whisper to her the words that you want to say.
4. If your lady is a pet lover, then try to tell her what you feel through a dog, a cat or lovebirds. Just give her the pet that she always wanted but never got to have and agree on taking turns in taking care of it. However note that if you are planning to do this, you must be up to the challenge of being a responsible parent to an animal. If you cannot commit, then do not even think about it.

Those are 4 tips that I can share with you. Hopefully those gave you an idea what you can do. Good Luck!



Getting “Mr. Hottie” Part III – How to Know If He Loves You

So you two have been dating for a few months now. As you get to know him, you find that “Mr. Hottie” is not just hot. He is also thoughtful, caring, responsible and every wonderful adjective that you can think of. And because of that, you found yourself falling for him fast.

Now you want to tell him about your feelings but the scared little girl inside you is screaming “Not yet! Wait till he tells you first!”

Yes, unfortunately he has not told you the three precious words yet. But you should not feel bad because some guys do have a problem in expressing how they feel. So sometimes, what they cannot say, they show. To you this means, instead of waiting and waiting for him to say it, just watch his actions to see if he is in to you.

How exactly would you know?

Well, here are some telltale signs.

1. When you meet, he does not just yap about himself, his terrible day at work and his family life. Instead he asks you how have you been doing and he is interested with what you have done since you’ve seen him last.
2. He listens when you tell him something important. In fact, he listens to you so much that he knows your friends and family even if he has not really seen them yet.
3. He is willing to give in to your little whims. He does your errands for you if you are feeling a little lazy and when you eat at home, he volunteers to do the dishes with you.
4. He tells you that you are beautiful even if you are having the worst of your bad hair days, even if your eyes are puffy from lack of sleep and even when zits are coming out of your face.
5. He tells you off when you are doing something bad. That means that he does not like you to go astray when you are with him. And finally…
6. He just cannot stop touching and holding you. After you make love, he stays to keep you close as you guys fall asleep.

Now when you see those signs, do not doubt anymore because pretty sure he is in love with you.

Catching Your Dream Girl Part III – Signs That Show If She Is In To You

You are having the time of your life with her. Yes, this may sound a little bit cheesy but your girl is currently the sunshine in your life. It just seems like when she is with you, nothing can ever go wrong.

But despite the strong emotions you feel towards her, there is this uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach. What is the cause of uncertainty?

It is the hanging question in your mind – does she love you or not?

Technically, that is something that you can just really ask her. But for some reason, you do not want to do that because that would just make you look so desperate. So instead of asking, you decide to just observe and see if she even has the slightest feelings for you.

So what exactly are the good signs that you should be looking out for?

Here are a few of them.

1. When she is with you, she just cannot stop laughing and smiling. Every now and then, you may also catch her throwing some fond stares at you.
2. She loves to be close to you. When you are walking side by side, she just cannot stop herself from reaching over and grabbing your hand. She also does not sit across you when you’re in a restaurant. Instead, she sits beside you so that she can lean over to you anytime she wants to.
3. She cares for your wellbeing. She reminds you to eat, drink your medicine or vitamins on time without sounding like she is nagging.
4. She knows and cares for your family and friends.
5. She is not afraid to show you her emotions regardless if she is sad, happy, depressed or frustrated.
6. She would rather spend time with you than shop.
7. And the final but perhaps the most obvious of all is: She hints on building a future together with you through planning trips, having discussions about moving in and sometimes even having kids.

Those are some signs that you should look out for. Now if your lady love displays the majority of them, you can finally rest knowing that she “digs” you too.

Catching Your Dream Girl Part II – How to Make Your First Date A Success

She agreed to go out with you! And together with the happiness you feel, comes the pressure for you to deliver. You know that this date matters because you feel like you have already met “the” one. She may be the only person who can make an honest man out of you.

And because of that, the question lingering in your mind right now is, what exactly can you do to make your first date a success?

Well, you can try the following tips to see if they work for you the way they worked for other men.

1. Dress appropriately. By appropriate, this means you wearing a nice dress shirt and a jacket on top of that. This is important because women in general like to dress up and if you dress down while they dress nicely, they may end up being disappointed or worse insulted with your sense of fashion.
2. Keep in mind that women in general love to be treated as queens. And queens do not really drive themselves around do they? So make sure that you at least offer her a ride on your date night.
3. Come on time. To be safe come at least 5 minutes before the time when you both agreed to see each other. This is important because coming on time shows your respect for her.
4. Have a plan in mind. Believe it or not, women hate it when they are asked on what they want to do during their first date. I mean come on, you are the man so just bring her to where you want to bring her and dazzle her.
5. Finally, no matter how hot your date turned out to be, do not spend the entire evening by thinking of ways how you can get into her pants. Instead, try your best to get to know her through a good conversation and have fun. This is important because when your date had fun during your first night together then you are more likely to get a second, fourth and perhaps a “gazillion” dates with her again.

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