Seven Ways to Stop Getting Your Heart Broken By a Douche

Don’t pay too much attention on what a boy says

Always remember that most boys will say absolutely anything to get into your pants. That means that there will be a few promises made that are meant to be broken. Know when they’re telling the truth. Just smile and decline offers. Don’t listen to everything he says, and pay more attention to how he acts.

1. Don’t give everything you’ve got all at once. If you really like this guy and want him to stay around longer then don’t give all of your goods in one go. This means that you should probably wait a few days before kissing him and a few weeks or months before having sex.
2. Don’t invest too much emotion early in the game. This is the surefire way to get your heart broken. It’s really too early to say if you’ll be together forever so try not to love him with all of your heart, especially if you haven’t reached the 3^rd date.
3. Listen to how he talks about other people– especially his ex. How he treats his ex is how he’s going to treat you. No ifs and buts about it. He may have changed for you but don’t be surprised if he does anything that makes you doubt his character
4. Have more realistic standards. We all want someone who’s tall, smart, handsome and funny but the truth is, we’re already lucky enough to find two of these traits in one guy. Lowering your standards doesn’t mean settling, it means accepting that your guy is not perfect. Realizing that he’s not perfect will also make you more forgiving of future flaws and will let the relationship last longer.
5. Do not look  for him to complete you. Don’t ever think that your life will not be complete without a significant other. Your life is already complete. Having a boyfriend is just an added bonus. When that boyfriend is taken away you should still be happy and be able to function well in life.
6. Be genuine friends first. A good relationship always has a strong foundation.

Seven Ways to Prevent Unnecessary Heartbreak

1. Collect and select—discreetly

One of the biggest injustices in life is that girls can have many suitors while boys can only court one girl at a time. But there’s a loophole in the deal: you can get to know a girl without proclaiming your undying love for her. Just be friendly and know whether or not you can be with this girl. Go out on friendly dates. Don’t be tied down to one girl immediately.

1. 2. Do not settle for a girl just because she’s the only one who responds to your advances

This is a relationship that is doomed to failure. If you settle for the first girl who responds to your advances then you’re drastically limiting your choices. If you’re not that attracted to her then you may want to keep looking.

1. 3. Do not settle with a girl just because she sleeps with you

This relationship will be fun at first but you’re soon going to realize how empty your relationship is, especially if you can’t stand her personality.

1. 4. Choose a girl who you’re comfortable with

Are you comfortable telling things to her? Would you be friends with her even if you weren’t attracted to her? If you answered yes to both of these questions then she may be the one for you. You’ll know when you’re comfortable with a girl when you’re not trying too hard. This is because she accepts you for who you are.

1. 5. Choose a girl who have the same values as you

If she’s not comfortable with having pre-marital sex and you are, then it’s obvious that you’ll clash somewhere in your relationship. Compromise is the key to these kinds of situations but if you’re not willing to do this then maybe she’s not the girl for you.

1. 6. Do not concentrate so much in a girl’s looks.

This seems like the hardest one on the list. But you’d be surprised that being attracted to a girl despite her physical flaws is quite common. The looks reel you in but it’s the personality that keeps you going.

1. 7. Choose a girl who shares your interests.

Common interest is the key to starting a great relationship. It’s what you’re going to talk about in the first few dates and it will keep you talking for longer than that.

Screw the Pick Up Line! Strike a Conversation!

Your dates, for some reason, always end in disaster. You’ve come home cursing your lack of flirting skills and below average social skills. You start to wonder if it was something you did.

Chances are it’s something you did and didn’t do! Flirting is a game you have to play and enjoy. And what you do is just as important as what you don’t do. Some people know the rules by instinct, others had to learn it. It’s never too late to learn how to flirt even if you’re social abilities have been likened to an asexual flower.

A common mistake that guys do when picking up girls is using a pick up line. When, in the history of dating, has pick up lines ever work? Unless you’re trying to be funny or you’re just that outrageously good looking that women would forgive your lapse in judgment then you’d better ditch the cheese. Yes, she’s probably heard that before.

What you need to do instead is to strike up a conversation. You can talk about anything around you. For instance you noticed that she ordered a drink. Ask her if it’s any good. When you can’t think of anything to say, look around you. Think: who, what, when, where and how; current events, famous personalities a good movie anything that can start a conversation. From there you can keep the conversation going. Remember not to try to hard though. Try to avoid awkward silences but don’t keep babbling either. Learn to read body language in order to make sure that she’s still interested. Show that you’re interested in her with your body language but don’t say anything explicitly yet. Striking up the balance between the two is the tricky bit.

Learn to know when a woman is not interested. Learn to take rejection well. Although your goal is to get women to like you, you’re not going to attract everyone. You’ll be wasting your precious time and effort on a girl who is not into you when you can move on to the next equally beautiful or even more gorgeous girl.

Calm Down, Miss Independent

You don’t have a boyfriend. Even if you did have a boyfriend you know you won’t be able to keep him for long. You don’t understand why. You’re an independent woman. You take care of yourself; you don’t take let anyone step on your dignity. And yet for some reason, men seem to be avoiding the plague.

It’s not you, it’s them. No really, it is. They’re intimidated by you. And who wouldn’t be? You’re smart, beautiful and you can take care of yourself. You don’t need anyone and you certainly don’t need a man in your life to complete you, so where does that leave him in your life? He’s afraid that he’ll never be good enough for you so he decides to go for another girl instead.

They can’t help it though. They’re wired that way. Men see themselves as providers. They think that they are supposed to be the strong ones in a relationship. When you exude an aura of omnipotence you’ll scare the living daylights out of an average male. You may think that they’re insecure and you’re probably right but if you want to find a stable, loving boyfriend you’re going to have to lower your roar, lioness.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll purposely demean your achievements or make yourself less independent. It most certainly does not mean making yourself sound ditzy or dumb. You’re more than that! This just means that despite your achievements and despite your amazing-ness, you are still approachable. Don’t scare off a guy by making him feel that if he screws up he’s going to be dead meat. Let him feel like he is an important part of your life. Let him feel important by allowing him to provide for you and protect you. Let him be the man in your relationship. Give him equal importance. Show him that you care for him and that you’ll let him care for you.

When a guy approaches you for the first time don’t pounce on him lioness. Give him a chance. Converse with him but don’t try too hard. Just smile and be approaching.

Meeting Women in New Places

Are you a regular dater?

Just got out of a relationship?

Do you want a relationship?

Is your dating life in a rut?

The first thing you need to do is meet new women. Meeting women should not be seen as a strategic plan, it is actually a fun and exciting thing.

Meeting women is something a bachelor should always look forward to. Never think of it as a sport or a game where you need to make elaborate plans or a dreamy scheme. The best way to meet women, in hopes of finding the perfect partner for a relationship, is to do it spontaneously.

There are a million places to meet women; the trick is to figure out what type of woman you want to meet, and what you want to get out of that opportunity. For example, if you want to meet a sporty girl, you can go to health clubs and gyms. If you want to meet party girls, they’re most likely to be in clubs. You have to remember however that these are not hard cold stereotypes that are 100 percent accurate. Be careful not to box people you meet at certain places in one category.

If you’ve been out of the loop for a while, try going out alone, without you friends or your proverbial wing man. This way, you would not feel too conscious about the things you do. Most people find more courage in coming up to a woman when they know that even if they get rejected, nobody but the woman would have to know about it. The playful banters among your peers are sometimes a cause of insecurity when it comes to meeting women.

Be open to new experience, try going to new places and don’t just limit the things you can and cannot do. Try expanding your social network by frequenting places that you do not usually go to. Try having your daily end-of-the-day coffee at a different coffee place, or try going to a newly opened club. Changing the scene would send allow you to meet new people. Be spontaneous, and confident. Keep yourself open.

Meeting Men Everywhere

All around us, there seems to be more and more tangible proof that women outnumber men. Almost everywhere we go, we are confronted by the fact that there are more women than men. But not to worry, this does not necessarily mean that meeting men is a difficult feat. The worst mistake women nowadays could make in meeting men is thinking that it is so difficult. This thought creates so much unnecessary pressure and takes the fun out of it. Meeting men should be looked at as an adventure, an unplanned adventure that will end in a pleasant surprise. Don’t think too much of it, meeting men is one of those tasks that are easier when you just wing it.

Every time you go somewhere is an opportunity to meet a new guy. It doesn’t matter if you’re at the grocery store or at a fabulous bar. Think about going anywhere as an open invitation to make new friends. When you think about it this way, you start to make changes in yourself that will ultimately help you meet new people or men, particularly, without you even knowing it. When you’re about to meet someone new, you dress up, you prepare yourself and equip yourself with the right things to make you ready to give a good first impression.

The key to meeting new guys is always giving off good vibes. Nobody wants make friends with the Grinch right? Try to always look friendly and amiable. Find something to smile about, but do it naturally.  When you look blooming and approachable, it eliminates the only barrier there is in meeting new people. The only thing keeping the guy next to you on the grocery stand is his fear of being shut down or embarrassed. If you make him feel like you’re a nice person, he would totally be there in a heartbeat.

What you need to do is to make yourself available for opportunities in meeting new people, and always be prepared to make a good impression. Put a little lip gloss on even if you’re just taking out the trash, or try to wear cute outfits even if you’re just going to the gym.

Lastly, do not limit yourself. Keep on trying new things, go to places you’ve never been before and prepare yourself to be pleasantly surprised.

Be Single No More, Getting a Girlfriend

Are you confused as to why your next door neighbor who has considerably less game than you has a girlfriend and you don’t? Well, do not worry about that anymore. Get yourself a girlfriend.

Before taking any furthers steps, make sure that you are ready for a commitment. A relationship bears with it a lot of consequences and you have to be sure with yourself that you are willing to take on all that. Never go into a relationship when you know you are not ready yet.

Next step is finding your new girlfriend. She may be an office mate you’ve worked with for years or a lovely young woman you sat next to on the bus. When you see a girl you know you want a relationship with, make it happen. In this society, no matter how progressive we all say we are, we are still stuck with the convention that it is the man who initiates relationships. This is why you must have the confidence and will to make things happen. Do not let a chance pass you by. If girls are asked to put themselves out there, men are toe. Most, if not all of women would never think of asking a random guy out, or even just admitting her feelings for a guy. This is why you should be confident enough to do it for them.

Do not let relationships build up in your head and die at your feet. When you like a girl, you should let her know. Timid men are disadvantaged in the dating scene. Getting a girlfriend for a guy who does not have the guts to ask a woman out is very hard.

The key to this task is self confidence and never doubting that you deserve what, or in this case, who you want. Many relationships are thwarted because the guy failed to make the first move and the moment passes. You have to trust that you are a special person whom women would or could totally fall in love with. You have to confident that you can sweep her off her feet just by being you.

Dating Tips for Women

Most women fret all day long about the date they have that night. This is because it is but natural for them to think about all of the things that could possible go wrong. But you don’t really have to worry about all that; there are ways to make sure that the evening will go smoothly.

First, be ready on time. The scene, wherein the date waits for the girl and gasps at the sight of her as she comes down the stairs, has forever been immortalized in our minds. We all want that magical moment. But no date would be in the mood to marvel at your beauty after waiting for two hours. Be prepared, look your best but be on time. A short 5 to 10 minute wait will be reasonable time for him to generate much anticipation to produce that awe when he sees you.

Second, dress comfortably. We all know that sky high heels are gorgeous but they don’t necessarily help in making the date a pleasant one. Be sure that you will be comfortable during the date, wear something that will make you feel like so. This is one of the best dating tips you will ever get.

The third dating tip is: talk and listen. Most bad dates are bad because of the lousy conversation. The woman is either too shy to engage in a conversation, or too talkative that she hardly lets him get a word in. Remember that the purpose of the conversation is so that the two of you can get to know each other better. So, do the right amount of talking and listing to fulfill that purpose.

Lastly, be yourself. This is a cliché but it is also a sound and effective advice. Do not try to be someone you are not. The purpose of the date is to provide the guy more information about yourself, and it would only make it pointless if you don’t let him get to know the real you. Plus, when you’re acting, or trying to project something other than your own personality, it sometimes comes across as fake. In addition, this dating tip could save you the trouble of keeping up the act when you get further along in you relationship.

Three Simple Dating Tips to Make your Night

Going on a date?

Are you feeling nervous?

Are you afraid that you might mess up the night?

Not to worry, just follow these guidelines and you’re guaranteed to have a next date even before she orders desert. These are some of the best dating tips you will need.

First, be on time. This is the first item on every dating tips list you can find out there. Women are known to take forever in getting ready for a date, but that is just one of the idiosyncrasies which make them more adorable. But tardiness in a man is not. Never make her wait. Women are many things but patient is rarely one of them. Your date begins, not at the time you get to the restaurant; it begins when the clock strikes the time you agreed upon. Moreover, this could set the mood for the rest of the evening. You want to start it right, not with a disappointed date.

Secondly, dress the part. Prepare for your date, if you planned to go to a fine restaurant, do not be happy with simply complying with the dress code, look your best. Your date most likely spent a good deal of time getting ready, and so should you. This will make her feel special because it is common knowledge that men are not really fond of getting themselves all dolled up.

Third and lastly, don’t make small talk, talk the talk. Small talk, when done badly could sometimes be insulting.  For example, if you’ve going a date with someone you’ve known forever, it would be silly to talk about the weather. Talk about things about the other person you are genuinely interested in, this way you won’t have to try to act interested because you will be. Try to come up with a list of talking points in your head so you would not have to deal with a moment of awkward silence. Don’t ask questions for the sake of asking them; ask about things you really want to know about. This would make the conversation engaging and steer clear of the boring.

Confidence

Confidence is half of the game. Most women are impressed simply by the sheer ability of a guy to carry himself well. In the same way, nothing turns women off more that a man who is not sure of himself. Women dream of being swept off their feet by a gallant prince-charming. Never in those dreams, however, was the prince charming timid man fumbling with his words.

Be confident, this is not as easy as the two words it takes to say it. But it is completely doable in time. In order to be a confident cat, you have to remember that, “All is fair in love or war.” It doesn’t matter if the next guy drives a Ferrari or has a Harvard Law degree. You have to remember that there are a million things about yourself that are yours alone. In order to seem confident, you have to be confident. There’s no two-ways about it.

When you are feeling insecure think about all of the things that only you can do or that you do best. Maybe you have mastered shooting hoops from the half court line, or maybe you can juggle ten bananas at once. These are small things you can draw confidence from. When you feel like you’re the lesser man, remember all of the things that you do that the other guy cannot. But as much as possible, try not to compare yourself to other people altogether. When you compare yourself to others, not only do make yourself envy, you also limit yourself with the good they can do. Try to find your confidence within yourself.

However, confidence sometimes comes dangerously close to arrogance. Be very careful not to cross this fine line. Never brag or name-drop, this only makes you look like a jerk. Remember that no matter how good you are, you do not have the right to look down at other people. Condescension is not confidence, its arrogance.

One of the key elements in dating is being confident. This confidence does not mean believing that you are better than everyone else; it simply means believing in your own self worth. Never put yourself down nor toot your own horn.

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